Have I over reacted?

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Went for dinner at a family members house tonight. I was having a heated discussion with the adult son of my family members partner. About control of women. The partner then asks me a question. I reply. He asks the same quesrion 3 more times and I give the same answer. He says I can't guve that answer. Family member says that I'm allowed to say that as it's my opinion. My dd then says " but (insert name) " and he turns on her. Telling her to shut up that she's not allowed an opinion. My dh, who had said nothing in the whole discussion, stood up and said "don't fucking talk to my dd like that "
Partner goes mental. Pushing and shoving dh. Then outs his hands around his neck. Pulls him on the floor and starts to kick him.
I grab the partner and try to pull him off. He turns and grabs me. Shoves my head off a door frame and bundles me on the floor.
Family member grabs him off me.
We get out kids and het out asap.
I have called the police to check in family member.
Have I done the right thing?

If this is on December 23rd, Christmas day is going to be a riot. Literally.

Erm...yes!!!

I'm lost with who is who in this.

Assault, yes call the police.

Curious though - how much alcohol was involved?

You absolutely have done the right thing.

How awful! You've definitely done the right thing. I hope you're all okay.

No alcohol at all for husband or I.
I have never had an issue like this in my while life

By leaving or calling the police? Sounds insane and you are absolutely right to call the police, that’s assault. I’d be phoning your family member tomorrow to make sure she’s ok and to offer a safe haven if she needs it.

Just curious but what did you say? He sounds crazy.

I have messaged her. She said she is fine.
I have a big lump on my head. Dh has scratches on his chest.

Conversation with his son was about women being controlled in Muslim families.
He asked what I thought religion was.
I said I thought it was a bad idea.
He said it's not an idea. Then started talking about phones being a thing am religion also being a thing. I said a phone cam be seen and touched. Un like religion
He is not religious btw

I would be very, very worried about your family member. And suspect you are under reacting due to shock. So def no over reaction from where I am sitting.

I hope you pursue this and press charges - that sort of behaviour is totally unacceptable.

I hope you’re both ok.

He seemed really snippy all night but I didn't think much of it at the time

That is in no way normal

He physically assaulted you and your dh. He is a swine and needs to be arrested.

That’s ghastly and very odd! Does he have form for aggression?

Wow, that is awful. Hope you are all ok. YADNBU to leave, or call the police or check I. with family member.

Stay safe.

I’d be pressing charges, without a doubt. It won’t go down well with your family member, but she needs to know that he cannot act in this way. Bloody hell, OP, what a horrible experience for you. {{{hugs}}}

No you most certainly have NOT overreacted. This loon is like an animal. If he has scented blood once he will go for it again. He was belittling of you, he behaved dreadfully towards your minor daughter, he suffered a worrying lack of control and he then assaulted you and your partner occasioning (in your case) actual bodily harm.
Support his prosecution. Your family member may not thank you now but how on Earth can she be safe long term with such a man?

I'm confused. Who is he to you??

Are you pressing charges? If not why the hell not? He physically assaulted you both. Your dd needs to see that when someone behaves like this there are consequences!

Are the son and partner both anti Muslim? Is this where the real issue lies - they don't like your opinion because they don't like Muslims?

The family member who is now fine... what do they make of it all?!

I have never had an issue like this in my while life

Believe it or not you are lucky with that

That sounds like a standard family christmas to me growing up.

Yes you did the right thing