Last night, there was a family gathering. Not close family, but DW's extended family, people she isn't close to nor particularly likes. It seems a bit impromptu, DSD was invited but DW wasn't, and DW working into the evening anyway. DW said she wasn't bothered about going anyway. I wouldn't have gone as we have a 2 year old and baby sitting isn't on tap. She goes out with them sometimes and I generally don't go, I'm not bothered about that.
I went to bed just before midnight, DW stayed up with some beer as she often does. Elsest DSD was at the family do, the other two DSCs were at home in bed (they are older teens, not little kids). Our DD who is 2 was also in bed asleep. DW didn't come to bed until at least 4am, I assumed she had fallen asleep on couch.
This morning I was talking to DSD about last night and it turns out that after I was asleep, DW went to this family gathering. It was about 10 miles away, so she must have got a taxi after I'd gone to sleep. She didn't text me to say she'd gone out (I put my phone on silent at night and she often texts me when I'm asleep, so knows it won't disturb me). She still hasn't mentioned that she went. If DSD hadn't have said, I wouldn't even know. From what I can gather, she was out from about 12am-4amish.
Aibu to think she should have at the least text me to say she'd gone? What happens if there was a house fire, or if I'd randomly woken up for a drink/wee and found her not home?