Lingerie from dh for Christmas

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Dh is after buying me something from Ann Summers for Christmas. I spotted the box. I’m 38 and we have 3 kids. I’m not into that scratchy uncomfortable type of underwear. Really disappointed that at this stage he thinks this is a good present choice for me after knowing one another for nearly 20 years.

Thanks for all your perspectives. They cheered me up, made me laugh and helped me see it from different sides. He’s acting hurt because I spotted it before Christmas. I’ll get over it and he ll get over it. I will be taking the advice to buy myself something nice altogether. Grateful to have 3 great kids. Happy Christmas!

I worked for Ann Summers for over 10 years. The lingerie is actually very good quality. The bra I have on now is from 2005

I wouldn’t mind at all if my OH got me present for himself

Sadly though he’s not into lingerie. He likes me fully naked, as much as I’d love a crotch less body stocking.

I have a large selection of silky little slip-like nighties, courtesy of the ex. Sadly, I'm unlikely to manage to get into them any more.

I have bought stuff from Ann Summers and very quickly regretted it. Nasty, cheap-feeling and very synthetic.

Like when my husband bought me some shite lingerie off Amazon for our 10th anniversary. I couldn't get it on it was tiny and made from hideous material. I am a sewer, so I like nice fabric also I'm a bit environmental and crafty/boho so don't wear nylon. Also we've been together 15 years so maybe he should know I'm not an xxs.
It wasn't the lingerie, it was just it made me feel ridiculous. Lingerie is meant to make you feel more sexy, not like an unwilling sex captive wearing someone else's knickers

You need to show him where to buy some decent lingerie from a quality shop. That Ann Summers cheap crap is hideous.

I am a sewer

I had to read that a couple of times. Thought you were confessing to particularly deviant tendencies

I don’t blame you. Ann summers is shite

If my DH managed to get the right size I'd actually be really happy with that.

But also, the do nice on sets and other bits that aren't just racey underwear garments.

Let him see your gift to him is a gym membership in his name

He's made an effort to get you something, for you as a couple. He sees you as sexy and gorgeous. So he's missed the mark, at least he's tried, don't be ungrateful, maybe suggest a shopping trip together to a fancier underwear shop or online. Take it as a compliment. He could have got you a hoover!

@Yawning if my DH gave me sexy lingerie I'd interpret it as he doesn't find me sexy and that he requires me to take actions in order to be sexy. So no that isn't a compliment.

As for it being a gift for the couple, if she considered it such then she wouldn't be so irritated. So clearly not a gift for the couple as he would know whether his DW wears that stuff regularly (meaning she enjoys it too) or doesn't choose to wear it (meaning she doesn't enjoy it). That only leaves the option that it is essentially a gift for him. Like a sex version of Homer giving Marge a bowling ball with his name written on it.

I feel sorry for him to be honest.

You haven’t even seen what’s in the box, and whatever it is he either thought he was buying you something nice or he has tried to buy something fun (granted possibly for his own enjoyment as well, but what’s the harm in having a bit of fun together)

I’d be proper pissed off if someone disregarded a present I had purchased without even seeing what it was.

I buy loads of lingerie from Ann Summers, it’s really good quality, not at all scratchy. I think it’s a great present, stop being such a misery. He still sees you in a sexual way, he wants you to have some fun, that’s great. Would you have preferred slippers ? He’s sending you a message here, ignore it and you’re looking for trouble.

He’s sending you a message here, ignore it and you’re looking for trouble.

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Cosmic I love lingerie and the cheap stuff doesn't bother me at all - but if me and DP were exchanging it for Christmas; it'd be something I got for us, and he'd have additional presents. I expect he'd be the same.

Buy him an equally scratchy thong and give it to him as his only present.

I'm sure he would appreciate such a thoughtful gift.

Don't understand the issue with sexy lingerie, some of it is rank and Ann Summers sizing is BS.
I get my stuff from lovehoney.com. It's good quality and value, plus does a good range of plus size. I've bought a pretty baby doll, white basque and stockings suspenders and a red basque with stockings and suspenders.
I'm not slim and was very self conscious about my body, particularly my yucky c section tummy. But the basques are flattering and I felt really sexy in it and my partner absolutely loved it.
Men like things like that but I appreciate it's not for all women. But I just thought sod it, my body's not perfect, but why shouldn't I dress up and I love it now.
You have the right to refuse to wear anything you don't feel comfortable in. But YABU to totally disregard it without looking at it. It might be a misguided attempt to spice things up a bit. I very much doubt there isn't a man alive, who doesn't like sexy lingerie.

Why not at least wait until you've opened it first?

Some Ann Summers stuff is tacky, but they do normal underwear, pyjamas and stuff too. I've some really comfy pyjamas from there before!

I would be impressed with my dh if he did that. He is way too shy to go anywhere near the underwear aisles even in primark!

Maybe he finds you sexually attractive and thought you'd like to wear clothes that most would describe as 'sexy'.

DH bought me something similar 3 Christmases ago. The second time he'd done so in 35 years and I / we loved it.

I'd have been disappointed if lingerie were my only present but if not, I agree with others that you're being a misery.