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Lingerie from dh for Christmas

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chocbisc · 22/12/2017 18:42

Dh is after buying me something from Ann Summers for Christmas. I spotted the box. I’m 38 and we have 3 kids. I’m not into that scratchy uncomfortable type of underwear. Really disappointed that at this stage he thinks this is a good present choice for me after knowing one another for nearly 20 years.

OP posts:
hidinginthenightgarden · 22/12/2017 19:31

I feel for him a bit actually. Maybe he is trying to spice things up a bit? My DH often buys something when we are going through a dry patch. Usually toys not underwear though.

LalaLeona · 22/12/2017 19:33

Exactly maybe he's misguidedly trying to cheer you up. Being 38 with kids doesn't mean you can't be sexy.

JaneEyre70 · 22/12/2017 19:34

I made the mistake of buying some lingerie from Ann Summers once from a hen party..... it was the weirdest sized stuff imaginable, and cost £60 for a bra and pants that didn't fit. They wouldn't refund either, it had to be vouchers. It was horridly cheap and nasty, and I'd be pretty upset if I thought my DH had gone there to buy me something. YANBU whatsoever. Perhaps you need to respond with a suitably offensive item of male apparel or enhancement...... Grin

Weebo · 22/12/2017 19:34

I would find that a bit off-putting, to be honest.

'Oh fuck he has an Ann Summers bag I'm going to have to shave my legs now'

What's wrong with talking about it?

Nuffaluff · 22/12/2017 19:37

I'd love my DH to get me lingerie, but he just will not, even though he likes it when I've got it on.
I have asked many times over the years, but he's too timid. I have to buy it for myself. Rubbish.
None of that Anne Summers scratchy stuff for me thanks, I'm more of an Alice Temperley from John Lewis type (not bloody well got any though have I?).

PoorYorick · 22/12/2017 19:40

My husband buys me lingerie and I love it. Ann Summers is awful though.

Mycutiemarkisrubbish · 22/12/2017 19:41

If you're in to toys and dressing up, all good. If you're not? No way.

LuluJakey1 · 22/12/2017 19:46

I wouldn't be happy.

I would rather have a book and some perfume and DH knows it so if he got me somethimg from Ann Summers he would not be expecting a smile or sex.

TheStarsAreMine · 22/12/2017 19:46

It's been a long time since I've been in there admittedly, but I have had some very tasteful and pretty non-itchy stuff from there in the past.
I do think you're being unreasonable refusing to even look at what he has chosen.

SugarPlumFerry · 22/12/2017 19:46

Could you suggest something similar from a brand/style you prefer? Then he gets to surprise you with something you like, will feel sexy in and will enjoy wearing all day.

I'm not into Ann Summers either but I like Freya. Honestly the Freya Fancies knickers are the comfiest pants I've ever worn. I've asked for some

Mrsmadevans · 22/12/2017 20:06

If it is undies as in knickers or corsetry dear God will you even be able to return it for a refund, I am so sorry OP he really has played this one so wrong , can you treat yourself to something you really want and just forgive him for his gross stupidity ,

froshiechipandbrickie · 22/12/2017 20:14

My uncle (well, actually my aunt’s ex - husband) once tried to buy lingerie for my aunt...

he obviously had no idea what size to buy, so he apparently went to the supermarket to buy a fruit that was approximately the same size as her breasts 🙈🙈 (I’m sure he isn’t the only man that has tried this. It actually sounds like an idea DH might have as well 😂)

Anyhow, there’s no way he got the right size. Bring it back and buy something you want? Comfortable bras aren’t particularly cheap either. One can never have enough sturdy sport bras imo 😂

wasMissD · 22/12/2017 20:15

That is 100% a gift for him! I always think that with lingerie (many men buying it Christmas Eve each year in the store I work).
I'd much rather have a pair of pjs- my husband is so lucky Confused

Nuffaluff · 22/12/2017 20:20

froshie
I can just imagine him standing there in Sainsbury's weighing a couple of melons in his hands, shaking his head, trying a couple of grapefruits instead, no still not quite right...

loveablether · 22/12/2017 20:25

Ann summers is for your 20s, not very classy but then he's a man...

froshiechipandbrickie · 22/12/2017 20:31

nuff

I would have loved to see the face of the saleswoman. ‘Well, what’s her size?’ ‘Good question. Hm... I’ll be back.’

SugarPlumFerry · 22/12/2017 20:45

But if it's in a box... many years back during a dry spell, my ex was banging on about some Ann Summers board game. A sex board game. Or was it a romance board game? I don't know. But I do know that if you do need a board game to trick you into a shag you probably shouldnt do the shag.
In the end he bought me an Ann Summers card game instead. I think it had sex move suggestions on the cards. They were all boring or cosmo magazine-tastic and it got lost under the bed upon opening, and not because of passionate sex having.

So yeah, it could be even worse than scratchy pants. I hope it isn't!

yummyeclair · 22/12/2017 20:58

Me and DP do a wishlist for each other and also get some surprise smaller items too. That way you still get what you really want. Personally I take being bought lingerie as a big compliment . Think it is worth having a discussion with your DP about presents i to avoid it happening again.

Splinterz · 22/12/2017 21:14

Our sex life is fine.

Or you think it is Wink

lurkingnotlurking · 22/12/2017 21:19

Well you may as well see what it is before dismissing it entirely.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 22/12/2017 21:19

I went in there the other day for a secret Santa thingy.

They had loads of PJ’s and normal stuff

CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 22/12/2017 21:39

YANBU. Many years ago I maybe wouldn't have minded it (although agree it's a present for the guys, not the recipient). Two pregnancies and 5 stone later, I think I would actually cry Grin.

ILoveMillhousesDad · 22/12/2017 21:46

Being 38 with kids doesn't mean you can't be sexy.

But the OP never said that.

If you think the only way you can be sexy is dressing up in tacky underwear, bought by 'your man', then you need to broaden your horizons.

fortunacookie · 22/12/2017 22:09

My guy is buying me lingerie ...I've only known him a month n slept with him once Confused

Cambionome · 22/12/2017 22:10

Ann Summers stuff is crap anyway. If he wants to buy you sexy underwear he needs to go somewhere decent.

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