To walk out on the job?

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IABU, I know I am. Talk me down.

Retail management, new job, much faster paced and I'm struggling. Quite a few of the staff also aren't people I've clicked with. I'm not expecting best friends but I'd like to feel a bit more at ease in the work place. Boss won't pick me up on mistakes, just sulks - I then get too anxious to approach her. The day is v choreographed so getting time to talk is hard. I left a job I had enjoyed for 3.5 years but got a bit burnt out from and needed to move elsewhere to progress. Took a job after that, Aug-Dec but left that for present one to be shot of my commute. So worried my CV won't afford the hit.

If I leave now, I have nothing to go to though I'm looking, and probably no reference. I need money- I rent. I don't want to be the person who walked out before Christmas. But this work place is toxic and I'm fed up of constantly living on my nerves. It's tempting to walk.

Please, MN, in your collective wisdom. If you've read this far, stop me!!!

You've not been there long enough to judge. Retail is tough so I doubt it will be much different elsewhere.

Daft question, but if your boss is not picking you up on mistakes but you know you are making them - are you making mistakes on purpose?? How else would you know you are making mistakes..

I’d stay until you find something else.

This is the worst time of the year for retail. Give it another month and the pace will probably change massively.

Use this month to network and look for something else. It shouldn't make a huge difference to your cv.

I quit my job in retail a few days ago,new manager came in, made it very clear she didn't like me, then proceeded to make my job miserable.

How do you know you are making mistakes if your boss isn't picking you up on mistakes? Confused

So bad, that before I quit, I'd been signed off with anxiety

You absolutely have to ask the boss to make time to sit down with you for a chat as you are "committed to developing in the role". Tell her you need practical pointers and clear instructions while you are new. If she can't make time to see you during the working day, you need to ask for 15 mins at the beginning or the end of the working day, whatever suits her best.

Good luck OP. I had a boss who was very unapproachable, I felt I wasn't doing well and got myself into a terrible tizz about it - but grasped the bull by the horns and it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be.

It's tempting to walk away from a toxic work environment, it affects your mental and physical health, I really feel for you.

Thing is how do you pay your rent with no job?

Sounds hard,I think you may have to stick it out though, just for your own peace of mind that your bills will be paid.
Maybe try and adjust your mindset So that far fewer fucks are given about other people’s shitty attitudes , meaning you feel happier asking the boss for help if you’re unsure. Keep asking the mardy tit until you get the help you need.
Best of luck

@TistheSeason it's more if she sulks I know I did wrong. I'm torn between thinking I haven't been there long enough and knowing I've bitten off more than I can chew. Walking out would screw them over immediately but me in the long run, I think. I'm usually very firm about staying put when I'm having doubts so for me to feel like this, I am tempted to go with my utterly wreckless gut, put my keys in the office and walk.

There are only a few days left before Xmas - stick it out, it will get easier and be quieter afterwards. I work in retail, you will get used to it but it takes time

Thanks everyone, I just need to keep reminding myself that rent won't pay itself!

Concentrate on the customers instead of colleagues
Keep telling yourself it’s not forever

But don’t leave now as it’s going to be much harder to find a job in January

wellhonestly has it. Do it and do it NOW while you’re new and before people can reasonably expect you to know everything. She’s bad at communicating. You need to be extra good. Direct, super polite and always repeat directions back to her once before going to do it, with any questions.

Any retail job must be hell now and during the sales. IT CAN ONLY GET BETTER.

If you will have no income if you walk out remember that if you leave voluntarily you won't be eligible for out of work benefits.

Honestly YABU - it's Christmas in retail, the stress levels are through the roof.

I work in retail and this is one of the busiest times of year for us - the rest of the year I could do my job in my sleep but from mid-November to the first week in January you need to be on your A game 100% of the time.

Your manager should be picking things up with you but if they're as busy as the supermarket I work in then they may just be too busy and their "sulking" is that they know they need to train you/go through the system again because you havent been shown properly but they know they don't have the time to do it right now and it's coming across as sulky and frustrated.

Hold on till after Christmas and try to take it up with them in January when it gets less busy

Retail
Manager here. This time of year people go into their "default" management styles, not usually representative of their leadership during normal periods. Get Xmas and NY over with, and if nothing changes look for something else.

It sounds tough. But you need to stick it out until at least after Christmas. When things calm down a bit it might not be as hectic and stressful. If it doesn't improve then look round for something else.

I’d never walk out of a job if I then had to struggle to pay my rent and bills. Stick at it, ask your manager for help on the areas you’re weak in. Jobs can be tough. You just need to work out how to make it work for you/learn from your mistakes etc

HI OP thanks for clarifying.

Just hang in there. First 3 months in a job are expected to be tough. Don't set yourself unrealistic expectations and ignore her huffing. Ask her if she is doing a Santa impression, ho, ho, ho!

I'm hoping you stick it and then can look back on a difficult start followed by perseverance and great success. ATB x

If you quit, you don't know how many moths you could be unemployed - without any benefits - especially if your recent CV makes you look flaky

The stress of not being able to pay rent & bills may be a lot worse than unpleasant colleagues.

I agree with pp:
as soon as you see your manager, request her to find time soon because you need her professional advice as your manager
Stick it out at least over Christmas and New Year, then review say in January week 2

If you still want to quit, find a new job first
Being in a job can counteract a flaky CV. Being unemployed makes it worse.

Also try to build up savings for interviews etc
If the job hunt takes time, at least your bills are paid in the meantime

Months ! < sympathy for unemployed moths >

Thanks everyone, you've all talked sense. I knew it anyway, just a really bad day! Thanks to everyone who had pointers for boss chat, too. Wishing you all lovely Christmases and my sympathies to all unemployed moths!

Just seen this don't forget to post with an update. Good luck and Merry Christmas