To walk out on the job?

[DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops]

IABU, I know I am. Talk me down.

Retail management, new job, much faster paced and I'm struggling. Quite a few of the staff also aren't people I've clicked with. I'm not expecting best friends but I'd like to feel a bit more at ease in the work place. Boss won't pick me up on mistakes, just sulks - I then get too anxious to approach her. The day is v choreographed so getting time to talk is hard. I left a job I had enjoyed for 3.5 years but got a bit burnt out from and needed to move elsewhere to progress. Took a job after that, Aug-Dec but left that for present one to be shot of my commute. So worried my CV won't afford the hit.

If I leave now, I have nothing to go to though I'm looking, and probably no reference. I need money- I rent. I don't want to be the person who walked out before Christmas. But this work place is toxic and I'm fed up of constantly living on my nerves. It's tempting to walk.

Please, MN, in your collective wisdom. If you've read this far, stop me!!!

I now have a bit of a dilemma. After Christmas with my parents, they have offered me approx two months salary if I want to leave and use the time to sort myself out (they think my mental and physical health could both be better and I do have to agree).

There's a lot in my life that needs to change and this could jump start it, but I do worry about what happens if I'm slow to get something else. I'd also have a legit reason to leave- DM is due a new knee and I'd be looking after her. DF is in his 80s and would need a hand, the rest of the family are other end of country and have own ill health/issues meaning I am nearest and best- and I do want to help her.

That's a game-changer;

Your DPs need help, you need a change - and it would be paid !

Could also help your CV if you say you left your current job to care for your mum after a knee replacement;
you'd look caring & responsible, rather than flaky - knees don't get replaced often, so a prospective employer shouldn't worry about a repeat.

But be very serious and organised at using those 2 months to get a better job afterwards :
Allocate say 2 hrs daily, Mon-Fri each week, plus travel to any interviews you get

My first reaction was "I couldn't possibly" but it's probably my best shot at getting out of the industry and using the time to sort myself out.

Plus I do genuinely want to be there for DM. My parents do so much for me, I want to repay :).

Retail is a tough job, and retail management even tougher. Stick it through a few more weeks until the post Christmas crap is out of the way and reevaluate then.

If anyone's still reading or wondering: 1 year on (nearly to the day).

I quit the job. I had 3 months out, which was a nice break and let me really consider my options as well as giving me time to help my mother recover. I now have a lovely office job in the civil service defence sector and I am hopefully soon to move into my own flat. Life is better.

Those of you saying that my boss might be better after Christmas... she wasn't. Once my notice went in, so many staff members approached me with horror stories about her behaviour towards them and how she bullied them. She really was a wrong'un! Everyone who worked there when I did has left, bar Monster Boss and one other unpleasant colleague. The rest of us meet up and discuss our experiences and I have written a character reference for someone she tried to force out the business.

Thank you for your guidance and support at a time when I was so low I was on the floor with misery!