To expect my Husband/Birth Partner to not get pissed?!

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I'm 36 weeks pregnant. Husband went out for a "few drinks" with his mates, which I had no problem with. Apart from the fact he has just rocked in now completely pissed.
When I told him I wasn't happy he was getting so drunk close to due date he just gave me a barrage of abuse saying I'm being selfish and everything is always about me, and he should be entitled to get drunk with his friends over Christmas. This is my first pregnancy and all I want is a sober birth partner! I know I am 4 weeks away from my due date but 36 weeks is full term right?! AIBU??

The reality is that it's highly unlikely he will be needed. And if he is needed it's highly unlikely that it would be a rare fast labour. So working out the risk, many posters would be pretty chilled about it. OP asked for opinions on this so she got them. I'm on my 4th baby and find it hard to get worked up about DH drinking at Christmas parties at exactly 36weeks today but I don't criticise her for getting upset. Especially with all the people who would egg her on saying things like he should be thinking of you, if it matters to you he shouldn't drink, etc etc.

The way he spoke to her is a serious issue though. Completely unacceptable.

I think you need to chillout a little you're only 36 weeks so not even full term. I do understand how annoying it is though when they can go out and carry on as normal over Xmas when you're pregnant, I've been pregnant the last 2 Christmases!

I was 38 weeks pregnant at Christmas 2 years ago, my husband still had a drink, granted he asked if I thought it was "safe" ie did I think I was going into labour anytime soon and I gave him the OK. He wouldn't have been able to drive and got very merry a few times. We went to our in laws New Year's Day and he drank then too, I went into labour the day after and the baby came at 39 weeks. I was fine with him drinking.