My best friend has a ten year old DD. She left her abusive husband when DD was 1. My friend has no family at all, whereas her ex has a lovely big family, so the first Christmas they separated he had her from Dec 23rd - 27th. The following year my friend met her partner who works in the emergency services and so often on Christmas day. My friend offered that their DD spend Christmas with her dad for the same dates, and has done every year since. They have Christmas a few days early or late, depending on school and her husband's shifts. When she mentioned this the other day, our other friends were horrified that she never spends actual Christmas day with her DD and thought her DD would feel unwanted when she was older. Personally, I think she's been pretty selfless as it means she spends Christmas day alone but her DD gets the best of both worlds. What do you think?