To be a bit irritated with my mil over this

[Amberlight003]

Ok so a month ago I bought most of my daughters Christmas presents, she only has 6 presents off us as I was made redundant recently and it’s been a struggle ever since and I’m still out of work. Kind of scraped the barrel to buy presents for 2 kids. Anyway I put a picture up on my blog and mother in law and sister in law viewed it and commented on it. Two of the main presents were a dolls bath and dolls bed, which were both in the picture.

Fast forward to last week my mother in law told my daughter who is 3 that ‘nannas bought you a dolls bath and dolly bed for you to play with at my house’. She buys toys all year round but they’re always for at her house. I was a bit irritated that she’s gone and bought 2 items off our Christmas list of things right before Christmas but for her own house anyway. We said after she said it that we’ve bought her those for Christmas, she acted completely surprised despite seeing the picture. Anyway we went for dinner 2 days later and she gets the dolls bed and bath out for dd to play with. DD was amazed etc. I just thought couldn’t she have put that all away until after Christmas as she knows we’ve bought her that this year for her main Christmas present, the rest is just crappy things really. Why go and spoil the wow factor to it all?

We’ve seen her about 2 times since and she’s brought it up both time...’are you going to come to nannas and play with my dolls bath and bed soon...you can come for the day and play with them it’ll be so much fun’ bla bla bla.

It’s just irritated me. Would it you?

She's obviously done it on purpose to spoil your presents, what a horrible woman!

If you can, I'd return the presents you bought, I know that's annoying but she's already kind of ruined the Christmas surprise

Get her new things that your MIL doesn't know about so your dd will still get something excitng that she only gets in your house on Christmas day, and in future if MIL asks what you're getting just pick something at random and tell your MIL that's what you're getting for your dd. At least that way you can CHOOSE what she gets for her

It's such a weird thing to do and actually she's spiting your dd as much as you because instead of something new and exciting on Christmas morning the child gets a duplicate gift. Though mind you dd could be just as happy to have one in her own house!

Of course it's all about MIL anyway and her desire to be at the centre of the family. Unfortunately some GPs can be like that, they just don't seem to want to grasp that their role is not the same as the parents role.

Irrespective of DH desire to brush it under the carpet I think I would have had to say something. People like her depend on your discomfort, your need to be polite, in order to get away with their crap. When you confront them calmly but very directly they tend to not overstep again ime.

Oh totally get you op and yes Animation we love it though.

And again op she sounds a nasty cow.