One wedding and a baby...

[EastDulwichWife]

We've been invited to the wedding of a very good friend in July. Our baby, if they arrive on time, will be 6 weeks old. Our friend's have said that babes in arms are welcome to attend, but no children.

The wedding is in London, where we live, so we can easily get a train there and a cab home. But it's our first baby and we're clueless. Obviously I don't want to cause bother for the couple by saying yes now, then dropping out a week before, and I'd rather not ask what their 'cut off' dates are, since they'll have enough to worry about planning the wedding and don't need to have to consider this too.

Option A - DH goes and I stay at home with baby
Option B - We both go to the ceremony (town hall), and I go home with baby
Option C - We RSVP to the whole shebang and hope we have a gloriously happy baby who sleeps through the whole thing, and I look and feel glam six weeks after giving birth...

AIBU to think this is in anyway possible?

5foot5 I know! There's way more alcohol in orange juice than in the breastmilk of a really very drunk person. For enough to make it into your milk to actually have any effect on a baby you'd have to be so drunk you should probably be dead. Wouldn't have made it to 4 years otherwise!

Go we went to a child free wedding ( had dispensation) when dc2 was 6 weeks. My mum pushed her round the streets during the ceremony. Then she had a couple of feeds at the reception, then slept in her pram fir the evening under a spiral staircase (much better than she usually did) . They are easy to take at that age, they get progressively harder.

it's nice to read a thread where you clearly like your friends and they like you and there's no strange passive aggression / non-communication weirdness. Have a wonderful time and don't worry if you feel / look like shit (I'm only speaking from my very personal experience here) - it's lovely that you can be there for your friends.

Thanks @Odoreida! After all these responses I'm actually feeling excited, rather than scared, at the prospect!

Spanx is a great idea .Go it’s lovely to be invited and if it gets too much you can hand over to hubby or take that cab home. Social events with a new born may sound like hell ( trust me when they are stationary better lol it’s when they are older running around or toddlers pulling at your dress and smearing your makeup with one fail swoop lol that’s harder . Go have a wonderful time . You’ll have your survival kit - pram car seat so you can put baby down - dummy if you give milk nappies change of clothes for baby - you’ve got this 👌and if all else fails give baby to hubby and Mingle lol

In addition to what everyone else has said, whilst you can ask for a cut off date, in reality, you might need to change plans after it but feel obliged to stick which makes things awkward. Have a chat with them in advance and so at least they know a change might happen. I know from my own wedding 18 months ago, the cost of one wasted meal had someone not turned up was small in the grand scheme so don't fret too much.

Also ask if it's possible to be seated for the meal near the door so you can easily nip out if LO starts crying, and have space for the baby seat or pushchair nearby. Again, we did this for the babes in arms at our wedding and it worked well.