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Original poster

To think this mum and teacher were a bit rude!

42 replies

Littlestchristmastree · 21/12/2017 09:15

Dd is in year 1, got told yesterday she needs glasses. I told dds teacher this morning and we started chatting. Another parent came up as we were talking about when dd needs to be wearing her glasses and showed the teacher a piece of paper and started to talk to her about it. The teacher then turned to the parent and continued to talk to her about what was on the paper, was an art thing not about school at all. So I stood there being totally ignored, said bye and didn't even get a response. Now I've thought about it I'm actually quite cross! Wibu to say something??)

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Capelin · 21/12/2017 09:17

They were rude, but you should have said something at the time - I think you’ve missed your opportunity now. You’ll look a bit petty if you say something after the event. They probably won’t even remember!

CheapSausagesAndSpam · 21/12/2017 09:17

If you'd given all information...ie the teacher knew when DD needed to wear them then of course you can't say anything.

If the information wasn't completely given you should go back to the teacher and say "I need to let you know about when DD needs to wear her glasses, we were interrupted the other day"

Teachers have parents vying for their attention all day and can't really afford chatting time.

BadFeminist · 21/12/2017 09:17

If you're not going to say something there and then why worry about it after?

Original poster
Littlestchristmastree · 21/12/2017 09:17

Maybe! I'm more annoyed about the parent. It was clear that I was talking so just to butt in seems unbelievably rude!

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AnaWinter · 21/12/2017 09:18

YWVVU to say something. Seriously what would you say? She is used to 20 plus people talking to hear at the same time. Let it go.

Ohyesiam · 21/12/2017 09:18

Had you said all you needed to?

BackBoiler · 21/12/2017 09:18

Yes but OP was informing a teacher about her little girl's new glasses which is quite important I reckon.

Isn't EVERYONE tired at this time of year?

BackBoiler · 21/12/2017 09:20

I wouldn't complain as such though, couldn't you just finish it off tonight when you pick DD up. However as it is nearly the holidays you could just inform the teacher again in the New Year.

Original poster
Littlestchristmastree · 21/12/2017 09:20

No I will have to talk to her more about the glasses. When I say chatting, it was important about the glasses.

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lou1221 · 21/12/2017 09:20

"Excuse me!" In a loud voice. "I was talking about a private matter, can you please step away, and speak to the teacher later?"
The parent at fault for being rude, the teacher put in an awkward position and should have said I am dealing with... But you should have said something instead of silently seething, then moaning later.

Original poster
Littlestchristmastree · 21/12/2017 09:22

I didn't seeth at the time just saw I was being ignored so left. I only thought after that it was quite rude. My fault I guess!!

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CheapSausagesAndSpam · 21/12/2017 09:26

Lou no sane parent would EVER say that. It's so MN to suggest things like that.

A more reasonable response might have been "I'll wait then shall I?" with a Hmm face.

AnaWinter · 21/12/2017 09:41

Just send a note in with Dd about the glasses. Our school discourages parents from talking to the teacher at the start of the class as it is distracting.

chickenowner · 21/12/2017 09:42

The other parent was rude to interrupt.

The teacher should have said something like 'I'll be with you in a minute' but sometimes parents can be very pushy and difficult to deal with in situations like this.

I would say don't overthink this, and let it go.

HamishBamish · 21/12/2017 09:45

The other parent was rude to interrupt you.

I would send the teacher an email saying you want to clarify what you were unable to finish discussing this morning. I always think it's better to have important things in writing anyway.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 21/12/2017 09:46

"Excuse me!" In a loud voice. "I was talking about a private matter, can you please step away, and speak to the teacher later?"

A little extreme!
A simple, "Hang on, we're still taking here" would suffice.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 21/12/2017 09:47

and never say "I'll wait then shall I?" as pushy parent would take that as an invitation to carry on!

MissDuke · 21/12/2017 09:50

OP stuff like this annoys me. I get irrationally cross when people are rude, to the point if stuff like that happens in a shop when I am being served, I would literally walk out Hmm I am trying to get better!

Anyway the above is to say I may not be the best judge, but yes it would have irritated me. I would have just shrugged and walked off pissed off but would probably have forgotten about by the time I got home. I feel like that kind of rudeness is so common now!

Tanith · 21/12/2017 09:51

You need to send in a note.

Perhaps the other parent thought you'd monopolised enough of the teacher's time already. It's incredibly busy at the start of the day and important information will be forgotten if not written down.

user789653241 · 21/12/2017 09:52

Tbh, if you have important issues to talk to teacher, morning drop off is not a good time. I don't think teachers have enough attention for each parents since they keep coming and going, and they need to make sure children are settling in for a day, etc.

Bowerbird5 · 21/12/2017 09:56

The email would be a good idea as it is exhausting with 25-30 little ones so excited at this time of year. Teacher will be pleased with email as might forget exactly what was said by new term. We have broken up already. Early for us and it has made such a difference to me this year I feel almost human already.

BarbarianMum · 21/12/2017 09:57

^^This. If it is important then arrive before school starts (if it really can't wait), send an email or make an appointment for after school. Other parent was rude, teacher should have been more assertive but you picked the wrong time and place.

Bowerbird5 · 21/12/2017 09:58

Op sorry meant to add parent was rude. Teacher should have asked her to wait but as others have said tiredness and trying to juggle things and trying to please all the people all the time is difficult.

Animation86 · 21/12/2017 10:02

Just send a note? i cant see whats so crucial here about the glasses, apart from ensure your DD is wearing them at certain times what more is there to know?

I think any parent, unless extremely urgent, needs to back off and leave teachers alone in the mornings. They have enough to do.

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