To think this mum and teacher were a bit rude!

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Dd is in year 1, got told yesterday she needs glasses. I told dds teacher this morning and we started chatting. Another parent came up as we were talking about when dd needs to be wearing her glasses and showed the teacher a piece of paper and started to talk to her about it. The teacher then turned to the parent and continued to talk to her about what was on the paper, was an art thing not about school at all. So I stood there being totally ignored, said bye and didn't even get a response. Now I've thought about it I'm actually quite cross! Wibu to say something??)

This is a funny time of year on mumsnet. So many people seeing imaginary issues - maybe you should go and sit in a quiet room and just think about some real life problems

I'd have said something like 'I'm sorry, I have to go in a minute and I just need to finish letting the teacher know about my DDs new glasses, I hope you don't mind'

Dds school have a 10 minute drop off time and encourage talking to parents in the morning. Maybe other schools are different. I was just going to mention it in passing but she started to talk to me about it.

Of course, it was rude to cut in on you, but teachers don't have much time to chat. The mornings are extremely time pressed. The bell rings and that is it.

So you had already given the vital information then.

If it needs more discussion then make an appointment to see the teacher

Everyone’s vying for the teachers attention in the mornings. Write an email to the teacher expanding on earlier conversation about glasses.

I did this, then labelled the glasses box and wrote a note for inside detailing when ds should be wearing them.

However he’s year one as well and it’s largely his own responsibility to use his glasses when he needs to, and put them away after.

Yes, rude - of the other parent, and the teacher should also have said “sorry I’ll be with you in a minute”.

I think people get flustered and tend to respond to the pushiest person in the room, but that doesn’t make it right.

Let it go though OP.

Yes, same at our school, open door policy and all that. But in reality, it just doesn't work well. Everyone is after attention from teacher, and they are all rushing. Of course other mum was rude, but it's something you should just forget about, definitely not something you should say about, imo.

It probably wasn't a good idea to talk to the teacher about the glasses at this stage in the turn: she's got a million things to do, is probably planning on going on the very boozy teachers' Christmas outing this afternoon/evening, and stands very little chance of being able to remember. Unless, of course, it's simply that your daughter needs her glasses for anything involving reading, close work or reading off the whiteboard, in which case it's bog standard and what she probably has to do with every child with glasses and shouldn't take long to tell her. I suggest you send a note in at the beginning of next term just to confirm what she needs to know.

It's rude of the parent and thoughtless of the teacher. I get irrationally annoyed at rudeness and thoughtlessness but generally wouldn't say something in a situation like this - just come home, swear a lot and seeth!

Your DD is only little so it is important that you speak to the teacher about this because she will feel strange wearing the glasses and you don't know how she will react in the classroom, so it needs to be managed.

Does she also have to patch? My DD2 started wearing glasses in I think reception (but it could be year 1 - bad parent alert) and she also had to patch everyday. Some days she just didn't want to do it so the teachers support is crucial.

I'd do as others suggest and email the teacher starting something like "as we were interrupted the other day when I was trying to discuss this with you", and then explain what needs to be done but also arrange a quick 5 mins in the new year.

yea, I agree reading back, that was too harsh. Was peed off this morning and I let myself get carried away. sorry op.

Both teacher and mother were rude. Both need to learn some manners.

You do not break off a conversation with someone - without saying excuse me - just because someone else has been rude enough to interrupt a conversation.

Dd is in year 1, got told yesterday she needs glasses. I told dds teacher this morning and we started chatting. Another parent came up as we were talking about when dd needs to be wearing her glasses

So if she was only told she needed them yesterday presumably she hasn't even got them yet? You are supposed to avoid talking to the teacher before school when she is trying to get teh day started!

This happens to me all the time - not just with teachers but other parents I'm chatting to. Someone else will come along and just butt in and the person I'm talking to will break off and start getting embroiled in a really lengthy conversation with the butter inner.

Has happened even when I'm talking about something important/sensitive and I'm left standing like a lemon while the other two talk about Coronation Street or something oblivious to me still being there.

Well it rude but it can be frustrating when people stand chatting to teachers when you only have a quick query. Your DD doesn't even have the glasses so IMO the discussion wasn't even needed yet. I would have waited until she had them and just said "DD has new glasses, she needs to wear them for XYZ period" what else is there to say?

This happens to me all the time - not just with teachers but other parents I'm chatting to. Someone else will come along and just butt in and the person I'm talking to will break off and start getting embroiled in a really lengthy conversation with the butter inner. angry

This happens to DH in the playground alllll the time. 😂