To not think getting married and taking on a huge mortgage qualifies as being a successful in life?

[Idreamofalandrover]

Just that really, everyone takes different paths and choices in life. Some society see as successful.

Anyway in this path surely the success comes later after you've had many years in a happy marriage and paid off the mortgage?

Re the context it was a " I'm the most successful out of all of us with a house, marriage etc etc"

Totally agree that for some that would be a failure.

To the PP who said that owning a house isn’t a success because it just means oh could get a mortgage and anyone can do that.....
I have a lot of twenty-something friends who would scoff and say they can’t imagine ever being able to own their own home. To us it is success.

You not oh*

With my health problems I feel that being able to hold down a part time job as an HCA, maintain family relationships, friendships & a social life makes me a success.

Marriage does not mean you are a success in my view.

Coping with life alone is harder.

I think you are successful if you feel fulfilled and happy.
I feel fulfilled due to the marriage I have and the children I have. I also love living where I do.

Doesn't success look different for every person?
My aspirations don't match anyone else's, why do people care what anyone else thinks about them?

Success is relative to each individual life, it shouldn't/doesn't need to be compared.

Re the context it was a " I'm the most successful out of all of us with a house, marriage etc etc"

Idream you know when I asked you why her definition of success bothered you, this ^^ is the answer.

Saying “I’m more successful than you because I’m getting married” is really quite different than saying “I feel successful because I’m getting married”

I’m surprised she has any friends left. Do you have to stay friends? Are you related?

If not it seems like an excellent time to edge away before she inevitably becomes an expensive bridezilla...

I do not see getting married as being a success. Getting married to someone where you are in a healthy loving relationship, yes.

It also depends where you come from. If you have come from a chaotic family, it may be getting and holding down a job is a sign of success. Whereas if your family are billionaires and can get their friends to give you a job, holding down a job may take no real effort from you.