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Original poster

Quick poll regarding my DH

30 replies

Bryonie2017 · 20/12/2017 08:24

We have a 5 month old DD, DH has been working away for 2 weeks and I'm coming down with a cold.
DH was planning to play VR with a friend at 9.30 when baby has her moring nap BUT she has got up an hour later than usual so won't be ready to sleep. Do I
A) get up now and look after the baby in the bedroom
B) go back to sleep and leave them to it trusting that he won't be stupid and kick her by accident or something
C) tell him not to play then go down in an hour to make sure

All help us appreciated!

OP posts:
dramallamakarma · 20/12/2017 08:26

Can he not reschedule an hour later?

Situp · 20/12/2017 08:26

Go back to sleep!

FuckyNellYaBastad · 20/12/2017 08:26

Well I don’t know what vr is but planning anything around a 5 month olds nap is asking for trouble so imo you’re bu Xmas Grin

Silverthorn · 20/12/2017 08:27

Send him a text to reschedule.

Chienrouge · 20/12/2017 08:27

I have no idea what VR involves, is their much kicking?

LoniceraJaponica · 20/12/2017 08:27

What's VR?

NewIdeasToday · 20/12/2017 08:27

What is VR?

And why can’t you trust your husband to make sensible adult decisions about how to look after your baby?

Madwoman5 · 20/12/2017 08:28

Or.c, explain you.are.unwell and after managing the family for two weeks alone, need to get your head down and try to fight the.cold. shit happens and you come before his bronding.

AdaColeman · 20/12/2017 08:28

Go back to sleep.

Chienrouge · 20/12/2017 08:28

I’d tell him I’m ill and am staying in bed, and let him decide the most sensible course of action in terms of the VR (cancel, reschedule etc). I assume he wouldn’t do anything ridiculous, being a responsible adult and father?

Original poster
Bryonie2017 · 20/12/2017 08:30

VR is virtual reality everyone!

OP posts:
Capelin · 20/12/2017 08:30

Go back to sleep. Let DH worry about what to do.

MongerTruffle · 20/12/2017 08:31

VR = virtual reality

Chienrouge · 20/12/2017 08:32

I know what VR stands for obviously, I just have no idea what playing VR involves.

FatBottomedGal · 20/12/2017 08:32

And why can’t you trust your husband to make sensible adult decisions about how to look after your baby?

I agree with this sentiment. If it was agreed that he’d have the baby, then he’s having the baby. He should be capable of realising he can’t play VR with a 5 month old who needs attention...

Spartaca · 20/12/2017 08:34

Don't worry about it, surely he is capable of making a decision on his own?

Original poster
Bryonie2017 · 20/12/2017 08:35

Alright going back to sleep, I'll let you know how it goes later!

OP posts:
SpartonDregs · 20/12/2017 08:37

Go back to sleep and let him actually do some proper reality and look after his child?

Only1scoop · 20/12/2017 08:37

Leave him to it

Reality is his dc comes first

Zadig · 20/12/2017 08:38

Is it that game where they wear VR goggles? Bit odd to have a friend coming at 9.30am to play this. If it's a local friend, just have the "play date" later?

Blahblahblahzeeblah · 20/12/2017 08:40

He can't watch a baby whilst playing VR. It's far too involved. My husband was playing it at a fire d's house and neither of them had any idea what was going on around them.

LoverOfCake · 20/12/2017 08:42

So he's already up with DD and you're still in bed? In which case I would do nothing given he's already up with the baby and what he does is not your problem.

Crinkle77 · 20/12/2017 08:46

Can't they just play at 10.30 instead when the baby has her nap?

DoctorTwo · 20/12/2017 08:47

Sleep well OP. You deserve it.

Crinkle77 · 20/12/2017 08:47

Whatever you do don't take the baby up with you.