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How many days to pay colleague back?

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feelinginthedark · 19/12/2017 22:36

I organised the purchase of Christmas gifts from the management team to our staff members - between 5 of us the gifts came to about 500, so they each owe me 100. I bought the gifts as my colleague who had said she would do it at the meeting at which we discussed what to get etc was too busy. The gifts have been delivered, are being distributed, and I sent an email yesterday morning with my account details for people to pay me back for them. Only one person has transferred the money yet - AIBU to be impatiently waiting for my cash??!! What is the acceptable time before I should remind people?? One of them still owes me 50 from a previous wedding gift for a colleague that I organised! I won't be organising gifts from the team again that's for sure but I know that if I leave it until after Christmas they'll forget altogether ...

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PasstheStarmix · 19/12/2017 22:39

They should be giving you the money asap as it's a lot of money you're out of pocket right before Christmas. I'd expect it within a day to be honest. YANBU by no means. I'd be reminding them on.

Viviennemary · 19/12/2017 22:39

Why did you agree to do this for that large amount of money. Getting cash out of some folk is like getting blood out of a stone. It is really cheeky. Don't get involved in this again. Your money should be paid back right away if they all agreed to the gifts. Don't quite understand why so much money is involved. Better to collect the money first from people then buy the presents.

Maelstrop · 19/12/2017 22:40

Within several hours of the email, tbh. Never offer to help again.

PasstheStarmix · 19/12/2017 22:41

Send an email tomorrow morning saying you need all do the money owed today or try catch them in person aswell.

PasstheStarmix · 19/12/2017 22:41

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PasstheStarmix · 19/12/2017 22:41

And you need to get the 50 back as well while you're on

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feelinginthedark · 19/12/2017 22:43

Any suggestions for polite wording for a reminder email?

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Ellisandra · 19/12/2017 22:43

I can't believe you just casually say they'll forget if it's after Xmas.
And also that one still owes you!

I'd hit reply all on your account details email and say "thanks X for the transfer. Everyone else - can you do yours today please?"

Then I'd email the £50 person separately and say "can you add X's wedding £50 too please?"

Don't wait any time at all.

PasstheStarmix · 19/12/2017 22:44

You could even say if they've forgotten they can go to cash point at lunchtime as you need it today to buy some Xmas presents

Bettyspants · 19/12/2017 22:47

Was the cost agreed prior to buying the gifts?

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feelinginthedark · 19/12/2017 22:48

Yes all agreed with quite a lot of emailing back and forwards to make sure everyone was happy

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PasstheStarmix · 19/12/2017 22:52

Op you're going to need to be firm with them and get your money back as it sounds like they're taking you for a ride with this.

NoSquirrels · 19/12/2017 22:55

Do what Ellisandra suggested. Exactly that.

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feelinginthedark · 19/12/2017 22:56

I know I'm just rubbish at asking for money! So awkward!

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PasstheStarmix · 19/12/2017 22:58

If your bad asking for money back certainly don't loan anybody it ever again. They're going to sense it and are taking a lend. Get that money back; you'll feel better for making a stand.

PasstheStarmix · 19/12/2017 22:58

you're

Viviennemary · 19/12/2017 22:58

Polite wording my Honestly, stop being so kind. Just send out an e-mail saying you have now spent £500 and List of who owes what

Mary £50
Jean £50

and so on. Cheeky twats.

Why is the company not paying for this. You shouldn't be buying presents for staff out of your own pocket.

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 19/12/2017 22:59

Ellisandra's email is perfect. Don't feel the need to add something jokey or give a reason for needing the money.

PasstheStarmix · 19/12/2017 23:00

Just be firm and straight to the point also don't ask demand

Annonymiss123 · 19/12/2017 23:00

Do what Ellisandra suggested. Exactly that.

Agree 100%.

Originalfoogirl · 19/12/2017 23:00

You are already owed 50 quid by someone but still agreed to do it again?

Fool me once.....

PasstheStarmix · 19/12/2017 23:00

Give them a time of the day you want it back say by 2pm for example

Howsthings1234 · 19/12/2017 23:00

Reply to your email tomorrow and say thanks to those who have transferred the money. Please can everyone else ensure you do so ASAP this morning. No need to word it politely just be matter of fact.

Agree with other poster - send a separate email to the one who also owes the extra £50 asking them to include that too as you are keen to get it sorted before Xmas.

Do it - you will feel better and you need the money back!!!

Suze1621 · 19/12/2017 23:03

Agree Ellisandra's response is spot on. Personally would suggest money upfront if you ever do this again.

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feelinginthedark · 19/12/2017 23:04

Thanks all, will send Ellisandras email tomorrow. Yes it is a lot of money and I need it back!!

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