To ask how big is your house?

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I'm grateful for what we have but I feel like I'm suffocating day to day.

We have a terraced house consisting of a small kitchen and lounge downstairs, a master bedroom, box room and tiny bathroom upstairs.
There's me, OH, DS (3), newborn DS and DDog.

There's no porch or wide hallways to have extra storage.
You walk straight into the kitchen where all the post and tat gets dumped on the nearest worktop or the table, no room for coat rack so jackets get dumped on the kitchen chairs, lounge has huge toybox as there's no room to keep DSs toys in his bedroom as its so small and now I'm having to figure out how to fit 2 DCs in there. The car seat for DS2 is in the lounge also as there's nowhere else to keep it.

There's clutter everywhere you turn despite trying to keep on top of it and it's a constant cycle of trying to cut down on stuff etc.
It makes me feel really down and I struggle to clear my head, it makes the days with the kids really difficult as sometimes you have to walk over stuff or trip over a bouncer or toy to get to the other side of the room.
I'm dreaming of a nice 3 bedroom house with an open plan kitchen and diner and a nice big lounge, oh and a utility room

AIBU to ask how big is your house and if you're happy with it?

Which room gets you down the most Op?

If we can give suggestions room by room rather than posting about our houses we might be able to help you make a few changes to improve things for you.

Also do you own or rent?

I'm in a 2 bed static with 1yr old and 3 dogs and my DP. We're making it work! (Come from a 3 bed farmhouse, bit of a shock.)

5 bed, 5 bathrooms. It's over 3 floors with the top floor being a small lounge, master bedroom and ensuite wet room with bath.

Downstairs is open plan kitchen-living room with a family room, dining room, conservatory and small pantry. There's a shower room and toilet downstairs.

Second floor is bedrooms (each ensuite) and office. Technically for all but DH is the only one who uses it.

Whatever size your house, clutter and mess can make it feel smaller. Clean surfaces and intelligent storage make massive differences. One of the things I love about our house is that the understair storage is a good size and lined with shelves. We have a double garage with a 'loft' so keeping crap out of the way is easier.

OP I think what the replies have shown here are that most people fill the space they have. It's human nature to want more - more space, to fill with more stuff.

My post was missing a final paragraph as I was interrupted but we moved from a smaller house. For a while the space was great but now we just keep more stuff. A good declutter, keeping the buggy and car seat in the car (or getting a sling instead of the buggy) and perhaps hiring a storage unit for occasional items like Christmas trees could make the world of difference if you love the location.

Otherwise, a move to a bigger house could be worth every penny if the longer commute etc doesn't outweigh the benefits.

Bluntness I would like to bold your entire postings on this thread. And then copy and post them ad infinitum to try to halt the race to the bottom.With a few notable exceptions, most posters gace been falling over themselves to talk about themselves, when Op wanted to know if anyone else could empathise. A failure to read combined with a failed moral compass is a scary prospect.
Op, are you alright? Reading these loathsome posts has made me feel sick, it's horrible to think that you might read these posts and feel more despondent. But listen, this is the anonymous knobs that post about their pools etc could very well be lying knobs. But never, ever let a bunch of randoms on the internet "make" you feel shit.
In terms of helping with solutions...do you know any chronic tidyers? I regularly have a few people begging me to let them tidy my house . But it helped to start off the process with a bit of support. Are you able to spend any money on storage? If so, ikea do many fab items. If the budget is smaller buy hooks. Put them wherever you can. Bags, dressing gowns, coats, etc. Can you/are you allowed to fix a few planks of wood above doors. Great place to store items in boxes. Buy a roll of wrapping paper you like and cover whichever cardboard boxes you think would work to contain paperwork etc.
I hope that life improves OP, I know very well the situation in which you currently find yourself.

I was thinking the thread was doing ok because normally, on threads like this, it’s page after page of “6000 bedrooms, a parlor and a library with the full works of Shakespeare, first editions” instead of normal homes. Then I got to the 8000sq ft outside NYC. 😂😂

OP has, by the look of things fucked off in a grump. Either that or it was a fishing expedition ...

I know how you feel OP. Have a look on rightmove etc at houses of a similar size - I found quite a few ideas from just looking at other peoples houses for what they had done (no imagination!) just by shuffling furniture for example or putting up shelves and hooks in places I never would have thought of made a big difference. Reduce the number of coats allowed downstairs then they all go on a hook behind x door and religiously put them there every day, put the car seat on top of something - kitchen cupboard? Fridge?

To be fair to most of the posters, the OP didn't actually ask, in her original post for solutions or empathy. She asked
'AIBU to ask how big is your house and if you're happy with it?'

I agree with confusion.

PolarBear god I'm getting pissed off with people intruding on my space, I'd barricade myself into a cardboard box if it meant I could be alone

FGS how are you getting on with it? Have you looked into storage options?

Blessyourcottonsocks - snap - we have a house almostexactly like yours it sounds! I adore it but dear god it's a bugger to run, heat and maintain!

Late 17th C Georgian farmhouse, beams, wonky walls, nooks , crannies and cracks and damp!

4 bed detached, lounge, conservatory, kitchen and separate dining room - all small to average sized rooms. It feels small in the Winter with us all on top of each other but in reality it's a decent sized house. The issue is that I prefer open plan living spaces and our house has a lot of dividing walls and no way of knocking them down without significant cost. I doubt our house's footprint is much smaller than dsis's but as hers is open plan it feels much larger and means they can host more people for sit down Christmas dinners. I love our house and on the whole I'm happy with it. But yes, we do easily fill the space and it gets cluttered very easily. At some stage I'd like a house where we could host large family get togethers - one with a library would be my dream home. It's very much a pipe dream at the moment though.

Ours is a three bed detached. Family bathroom and en suite. Large living/dining room, kitchen and garage. It doesn't have a lot of rooms but they are all very big, could easily be a four bed. It me, dh and 2 small DC.

We have only recently moved in and saved every penny we could for the last two years to get it. It has a massive hallway at the front which is so helpful, I know what you mean about feeling cluttered.

In previous houses I've just had to get creative with extra storage space. My older DC sleeps in a cabin bed so there's storage underneath. Shelves everywhere that's appropriate too.

Mine sounds a bit like yours OP but we are semi-detached. DH and I also find it too small for us and two DDs (who share a bedroom) but I'm reluctant to move at the moment to something bigger because when we do move I want it to be to a nicer area. We also have a nice manageable mortgage at the moment.

3 bed semi, 2 double bedrooms and a single for our 16m old. Downstairs through room lounge/diner, entrance hall, decent size kitchen, boiler/coat/shoe room, utility room and downstairs toilet.
Happy there for now but looking to move in 3-4 years to a detached.
2 adults, 1 toddler and 2 cats

Oh, bathroom and toilet room upstairs too, loft boarded for storage (though full of spiders shudders)

I think there are a few things that make a massive difference to how hemmed in and full a house seems

1. A big hall. Our kitchen and living area are smaller as we sacrificed space for this. Totally worth it
2. Storage and/or throwing shit out and being really, really ruthless about it

2 bed terrace. Three people, soon to be four. Very well designed though, so lots of storage space. It was about perfect size for two people, but feels very cramped with three and I'm dreading DC2 arriving. I would love an extra couple of rooms!

If it's any consolation op my friendhas a beautiful massive house which she still isn't happy with.

I feel your pain though it's like shifting sand you tidy up one corner and the clutter is then just somewhere else.

I think you are going to have to be really ruthless with the kids toys and get rid of some. How much of it actually gets paid with?

I've just bought some sticky hooks that don't damage walls when removed and they are brilliant for storing bags on etc. Could you put a couple of these up.

I've started taking photos of letters and then chucking them away as we were over run with paper work. That could save some of the clutter.

Young kids just create mess and the mess just fills whatever space is there.

3 bed cottage (2 beds are attic rooms with restricted head room one accessed by steep stairs, one by ladder) approx 75m2, me, DH, ddog, and soon DD. We only intend to have 1 child but previous owners raised 2 kids here and we have improved the layout since buying.
I think what makes the place work is no floor area is lost to hallways/ landings, and it has a decent size living room and well proportioned 10ft x10ft kitchen which is open plan off living room.
We do have to be strict about not accumulating clutter, but would try to do that anyway regardless of house size, and are trying to add clever storage solutions to each room as we decorate.
I don't feel like we need more space. But might feel different in a year or two!!!

4 bed extended 1930's semi. But I hate the layout as it's not as big as it sounds, and the extension was done in a bizarre way by the previous owners resulting in some overly large rooms and other really cramped ones. I'd love a Victorian terraced or another 1930's but detached, with a more normal garden (mine is on different levels)

We have a small three bedroom flat. Small because it is in a capital city. The kitchen is tiny!! And we are debating losing one of the bedrooms to make it slightly bigger. The only saving grace is it has a bodega where we have put all the crap. I am wondering if you could put a shed in your garden to hide the crap like us? Then we have minimal furniture. Yes to door coat hangers and shelves. You have my sympathy OP. We have just bought here and it is the only thing we could afford. It needs lots of doing up and it is depressing.

We live in a one and a half storey old victorian house. Upstairs there are two bedrooms, one ensuite and a large family bathroom (would originally have been a bedroom). Downstairs there is lounge, dining room, kitchen, utility/breakfast room, bathroom and a third bedroom which we are using as a playroom.

Ideally we want to build a two storey extension to extend the full width of the back of the house to give a large kitchen diner with doors onto the garden and another bedroom upstairs.

Hi OP, your living room, instead of toybox could you get stackable plastic drawers? My friend has them and they work well. In our living room we have a chimney breast so on one side we built a TV unit with cupboards in each side for bigger toys, the other side is a storage bench, MDF front and lid on hinges, cushion on top as a seat but open it up and it has all the other toys in.
The jumperoo is tucked behind the living room door, the walker tucked behind the sofa (toy tray off).
If you have wall space i've found box shelves handy as things can't fall off the edge
As PP under bed storage or if possible a bunk bed with a wardrobe and drawers underneath?