To view friend in a different light

[auriofthemoon]

I have a new friend. Someone I'm actually able to have a proper conversation with as I'm usually massively antisocial. It's been great to have someone with the same thoughts and views.

The other day I was found for a cup of tea and the kids were playing and I made a comment about something new of hers and asked her where she got it. She replied with the place and price and then said 'well if I had paid for it' I made a comment about vouchers or something and she replied that she had just forgotten to pay and then didn't bother going back in when she realised.

I don't know why but it's really playing on my mind. Maybe some people wouldn't consider it a big deal but it's just changed the way I feel about her and I'm sort of disappointed.

I am more than happy to be told I am being unreasonable!

*Neiflette
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Yabu. Okra is delicious.

Pride in an accidental theft is the red flag. The correct reaction would be shame.

I assume sweetybumps the screamer won't mind if she gets burgled then?

I find it odd that she told you she hasn’t paid for it. I mean she could have just told you where it was from and the cost.

Sounds like she wanted to alarm you.

Well.....things took a rather unwelcome unexpected turn there for a moment.

Glad to see we're back on track now and auriofthemoon, we'd love to know how you cook okra; we can't ever make it taste good....

It really wasn't like she was bragging. It was a very matter of fact 'i didn't realise until I was back at the car and the kid was screaming so I went home'

Make of that what you will but it wasn't like she said 'hey hey look at my new thing. I stole it. How hilarious am I'

Fliss

The way you make all vegetables tastes good...dip them in batter and shallow fry them

Oh come off it, I didn't feel shame when I accidentally took that wrapping paper. I felt "whoops". Do you expect people to feel shame days later? Bloody hate the self flagellation and guilt we're all meant to feel.

aurio

Might have to try an okra recipe then! But I'll pay for it this time

@Neiflette - my toddler did the same in Waterstones! Was paying at till, she was in buggy and as we got out onto pavement I realised she was clutching a little £2.50 odd till item that she'd obviously grabbed from the rack near tills (forget what it was, probably as useless as okra ) I obviously nipped back in and handed it back (Cashier was totally unbothered) but did make me laugh that my 2 year old had unintentionally shoplifted. OP, I think you're right to feel a bit uncomfortable initially but if it turns out to be a genuine one off mistake I wouldn't throw away what could be a really good friendship.

I couldn’t get that wound up about it. If she’d been boasting that’d be different but it sounds like a genuine accident rather than the first steps towards being a master criminal. My gran managed to walk out of tesco with a shower gel hooked to the back of her! How no one noticed I don’t know. She was v embarrassed!

Talk about a pack of drama queens

I does sound like a genuine accident, although she could have gone back of course but sometimes we make mistakes

I have done both actually
Have walked out of Tesco paid for my shopping but had a whole chicken in a little plastic bag hanging from buggy I didn't go back

Just recently when Christmas shopping bought a handbag for my mum (over £100)
And a few small items the sales assistant scanned the small stuff but not the handbag, i paid and whilst walking away I started to look at the receipt , realising the mistake went back (although admittedly it crossed my mind that I could just leave but really i just couldn't, maybe different if i was home already)
Also rushed back to pay for £8 pyjamas at m&s
I really forget a lot!