How often do you visit your parents?

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Just out of curiosity...
DH lives 3 hours away from his and I live 1.5 hours.
MIL / FIL don't come to visit us so we make the trip down once a month.
DM / DF come up as much as we go down so about once every 3 weeks alternating.
FIL expressing concerns that DH doesn't see MIL enough.
Just wondering from your own experiences what is reasonable?

They live 90 miles away and we see them about once a week

Mine are in their early seventies, semi-retired and live 130 miles away. We've seen them about 9 times this year, a mixture of them coming here, us going there and a few days out meeting somewhere in the middle. FIL died before I met DH, MIL is in her early eighties, lives in a home about 70 miles away (she has dementia). I've been to visit once this year with DH, he's also visited her on his own once or twice.

My parents live 1.5 hours away - two to three times a month.
MIL is 15 mins away - at least once a week.

I haven't seen my parents for more than four years.

It's bloody lovely.

My parents about once every 3 weeks (they live about 25 minutes drive away) we don’t see them from November-April at all though as they go abroad for the winter.
When we were still married we saw xh parents once every 3 months (live 10 minute drive away) haven’t seen or heard from them since the day h moved out 5 years ago apart from in our local supermarket when they blanked me and THEIR gc!!

I speak to my mum about 3 times a week but we haven’t seen each other for about 5 years. They only live about 5hrs away but neither of us are too bothered - we are friendly but not close.

MIL lived next door to us for 7 years until her death this time last year so we saw her daily

One set are six hours drive away, the other three and a bit. We see both every few months.

We should go more.

Every day. We all live within 10 minutes of each other. My grandmother too.

MIL lives just over an hour away and we haven’t seen her since last Christmas, we’re going to visit this week. Her and DH wind each other up and phone calls often end in one of them hanging up on the other. She isn’t physically able to visit us. I feel guilty that we don’t see her more often.

My DM lives 4 hours drive away. I visit 2 or 3 times a year and she visits us probably once or twice a year.

My DF lives in another European country. We usually visit once per year and he does a UK visit every year or 2.

My mum lives 30 minutes away. I visit once a week for a few hours.

My dad lives 20 minutes away. He visits once a week for half an hour or so.

Mil lives 3 minutes away. We've not seen her in about 8 weeks and it was about the same before that.

We've been no contact with FIL for about 15 years I guess. No idea where he moved to after he was released from prison!

My parents live 10 minutes away, I see then at least once a fortnight, I worked with my dad for many years so up until I was in my 40's I saw them daily. I also saw then more when he retired as they were my back up childcare. We are still close and talk frequently on the phone, but we are busy people so we fit in meeting when we can. They only see DH at family events and the DC if they are around.

My PIL are about 20 mins away, we see them when they can ft us in around the childcare for their younger GC, probably averages once every 5 weeks. DH talks to them weekly.

Our DC are at uni at least 4 hours drive away, they come home for the holidays and we FaceTime in between. If we can we try to meet one during the term but they are both on courses with short intense terms so we don't always manage it.

My mum.. weekly or twice weekly. she's local, on her own and quite needy. My dad is about 8 miles away and partnered and quite busy so I'd say a couple of times a month

DM & DF live 2 miles from me and both drive. Both work full time and have no other GC. I see them every fortnight when i drop my children off for the night (their request to have them). We have a 30 minute chat but that's it and are all happy with this.

DMIL & DFIL live 2 miles in the other direction. Neither drive and both have bus passes. Work full time and have 4 other GC. They come over every monday night and stay here with our DC while we go out or go shopping. They also babysit whenever needed and come on weekends away to Legoland etc. They also give one night babysitting and frequent more "emergency/last minute babysitting" to their other DCs and GC.

I see my parents about once a year, I see my MIL about 4 times a year when in UK. When overseas it is about the same maybe a bit less for MIL.

There isn't one right or wrong answer here and lots of different things will impact on the answer, distance, relationships, health and transport options.

Parent is local (20mins)/ Non disabled/ non elderly but we both work so about once every 2/3 weeks.

My parents live a few minutes away- see DM briefly on a Wednesday when i get home from work as she looks after DD. See both of a weekend for a few hours, usually a Sunday.

In laws we see once or twice a year, live a good six hour drive away. They wont drive long distances- only 2 exceptions to this was when DD was born 3.5 years ago and DSD2s 18th earlier this year. It's difficult for us to go and visit them as we both own our own businesses and this is the first time that both of us have more than 3 days off over Christmas together so we are spending Christmas with them this year (leaving tomorrow and back 27th)

Do feel bad sometimes but we all have our own lives

I live overseas but it's rare that 5 months go by without us meeting. I call them at least once a week and whatsapp pics etc several times a week. My DH is the complete opposite - calls once a month and has to be reminded to do that. I refuse I take on his family as my own. Every thing is amicable, but it can be awkward as he's so poor at keeping in touch.

I live overseas so a couple of times a year. I see my in-laws everyday as we always eat dinner together. When we lived 2-3 hours from my parents we'd probably see them once a month or so.