How often do you visit your parents?

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Just out of curiosity...
DH lives 3 hours away from his and I live 1.5 hours.
MIL / FIL don't come to visit us so we make the trip down once a month.
DM / DF come up as much as we go down so about once every 3 weeks alternating.
FIL expressing concerns that DH doesn't see MIL enough.
Just wondering from your own experiences what is reasonable?

My mum lives 5 minutes away and just see her 4 times a week. My MIL lives an hour's drive away and we visit her every 6 weeks or so but i think we should see her more as she is 90. I sometimes visit in my own in between times or take my mum too.

I see my mother every week, she is quite elderly and lives nearby. I can't see her any more than that as she is so miserable and drains the joy out of everything.
I do speak to her more often and I sort out her online shopping.
The in laws are younger and live further away. We see them every few months. That is plenty.

Mine live 1.5 hrs away, DM unable to travel for that time due to disability so we always go there. We aim for once a month. DPs are currently giving me the silent treatment though so won't be seeing them for a lot longer.

ILs live about 5 mins away. See mil very often, though not necessarily regularly. Poor FIL barely gets seen as he works full time still and we see mil so often that neither her nor us even think about going at a time he's there

My parents died a few years ago, but we see DP's mum fairly regularly. She lives 1.5 hours away but we see her about once a month on average. We tend to see her more in the summer months as we take her out to visit National Trust places (she doesn't drive).

When DP finally gets round to clearing out the spare room we'll be able to have her to stay, which will be nice. She's really lovely and a keen gardener, so there's plenty for her to do!

Mine are 4 hours away and not very comfortable with motorway driving. They come to us about twice a year. I go to them roughly every 6 to 8 weeks and twice in December.

DH's are two hours away and we see them about 3 times a year. DH insists that they are a close family, and he'd be there like a shot if any of them needed him, but he doesn't feel the need to make frequent visits.

We live 6-7 hours away from my parents and we travel once a month to visit them regardless of how much they visit us. They don’t travel to see us as much, maybe every 2 months or so.

PILs are two hours away, visit couple of times a year. They could get here easily and don’t bother.

My mum is ten minutes away. Haven’t seen her in 4 years.

We see my parents 3/4 times and week and my in laws about the same. They both live about 3 minutes away!

My own - 4 times in the last 15 years

ILs we saw in the summer holiday and they're this way at Christmas. Used to see more of MIL but seems the novelty of GC have worn off now.

(mine live on the other side of the world)
(ILs 2-3hrs away)

2 hours away and once every couple of months. I think you are doing loads given the distance. Do you have children?

Most weekends

My parents live abroad so once or twice a year

3 or 4 times per year (they live about 800 miles away - minimising I could say a 90 minute flight, but with all the travel either end and check in etc it's a solid 12 hour journey).

DH's dad is an hour's drive away. It's been different recently but when both his parents were in good health it was about once every 6 weeks, bit weighted towards seeing them more in school holidays - so we might see them 4 or 5 times over the summer holidays including kids staying a few nights, twice over Christmas including all staying over, but not see them at all in term time.

I couldn't live in my parents pockets - one of my siblings does and they have a really odd relationship of co dependant martyrdom...

Are you DH and MIL content with the amount they see each other? If the answer is yes, then I really wouldn't worry. Asking how often everyone else sees their ILs is like asking other couples how often they have sex and then feeling inadequate if they do it more often, even if you're perfectly happy!

I see my parents every couple of months. They live 100 miles away. I think they'd like to see us more often, but it's just not possible.

MIL lives overseas. DH sees her once or twice a year and the DC and I see her every couple of years when we visit. She refuses to travel to see us, so I assume that it's not that important to her.

We used to be 2 hours from my parents and 3 1/2 from DH's and we drove to see all of them every 6-8 weeks. None of them never came here.
Now we've moved closer, I can get to my parents' in 20 mins but we only see them once a week. My in-laws are about an hour away so once a month or so.
Bear in mind we don't have kids; if we did we'd see my parents much more as they'd be helping with childcare!

We see my parents - 1.5hrs away - about once a month, it's about even for who goes where. We don't usually stay there, they sometimes stay with us.
MIL isn't far as the crow flies but its a 1.5hr drive plus a 2.45hr ferry, and it costs a lot. We see her every couple of months, and usually she comes to us, its cheaper, we pay her air fare some of the time. That being said we're going to her over Christmas.

I live about 5 miles away (as the crow flies), but, don't drive and have various disabilities. That said my daughter and I see them at least once a week on her early college days if we can. They live out in the sticks so no bus bank holidays or Sunday and not a great service the rest of the time. Still worth the effort as, due to home life, we rarely saw them until last year but that is a whole other story

Couple of times a week usually? Same for PILs. It could only be for a few minutes at a time. We all live in the same general area.

I love it, actually. I get on really well with my parents but they always encouraged me to go and do my own thing and be free, however the way life has worked out, we're now geographically very close after all. I feel very lucky because they are supportive, hands on grandparents and just generally great people. I'd be friends with them anyway if we weren't related

My folks 3 hours drive, we go down about 4 x per year and stay for at least a week. They visit us about the same but only stay a few days.
DH family are abroad, he takes DC every year. He goes alone a couple of times a year too. I haven’t been to DH family for 4 years.......

Mine are eldelry now and not in good health. They live in aother country and I visit them every 3 months for a week. I'm worn out but wouldn't do less

My parents are 50 miles away and I see them 3-4 times a year, mostly because my mother is a dick and I can only tolerate her in short bursts.

FIL is a ten minute walk away and DH visits him every couple of weeks.

5 hours away, visit once a month for a couple of days. Visited more when they were ill. If you are unable to visit more regularly, suggest phoning, text, Skype, postcards, Facebook, depends if they use social media

We see PILs weekly, they live half an hour away. We see DM (DF is unfortunately no longer with us) about 3 times a year? But we live 500km from her. I wish I could see Mum monthly and the same for the PILs

I see mine at least once a week, if not more, but they do live very close and we get on well.