So it's a hard time atm. My grandpa is dying from terminally lung cancer that has spread. He is now going downhill quickly and carers will now be coming in. My Gran is not coping well. My DM has never seen her cry apart from now. My grandpa normally does most things. Odd jobs/cooking/washing. Now he is unable to she's struggling a bit. My DM is now going round alot more often to help. They do live a hour away so can't just be there straight away.
My DM received a phone call from my grans neighbour yesterday. She was so rude and horrible to my mum. My gran however thinks this is her friend and has no idea she rang my mum. My grans neighbour told my mum to tell my gran to not ask her to help turn her fire on or whatever.
My gran is 10 years older than this women and has never asked for any help before. It's just small things she's asked for nothing major. Then the neighbour laid into my mum and asked for my DM sisters number. My DM said she would contact her but neighbour went behind DM back and phoned her anyway. My gran has always gone to the village and got this women her paper every day and chats to her most days.
So aibu to be angry with this women. I feel like saying something to her and saying to give my gran a break as my grandpa is on his last legs!!