AIBU to be fed up and 'done' with aunt or just play along and keep her guessing? This might be long, sorry. I'll start by explaining the character she is and mine. I'm like my privacy, don't bother with other people's business as my own weighs me enough and I don't think I'm petty. OTOH my aunt is the exact opposite to DM and myself. 1. Nosy 2. Cannot for the life of her keep a secret 3. Tells anyone that will listen personal things about you and v.v 4. Confrontational and petty 5. Very very kind and giving 6. Sensitive.
So when I was expecting DD1 literally the day I got a bfp, she called to let me know my uncle ( who had told her in confidence!!) was cautiously excited as his wife 3weeks along. They didn't want people to know as she had previously mc'd. Fast forward a month later, sadly she did mc. Turns out literally everyone including my in laws ( completely not related to the family) found out she was expecting and got deeply hurt that my uncle had put it out there. (Sadly 6months later divorced btw). I decided after the call then I wasn't going to tell her till I was 6 months. She found out from my in laws I was expecting literally the week before I was to call her.
This year we met in March and I was ill as I have a chronic illness. We had a row and suddenly in the heat of moment she accused DM and me of hiding my illness, pregnancy etc etc. I was hurt by some snide comments she'd made just to bait me to find out more about my condition. We had a row. Anyway she called me sometime in August and in passing asked if I was going back to finishing studies. I said no, didn't give a reason. She said oh that's good just use this time to rest. Deep down I know she suspected I was pregnant.
Since October, she's been trying to call my in laws and friends to find out. She couldn't take it a week ago, begun small talk with a wedding she attended- couple are expecting, girl she knows is ttc another baby as gap is widening...you get the drift. At the end of convo, clearly exasperated she says she has a friend where I live( highly unlikely as she only comes to me in this city) and will come by to see me. I said yeah no problem let me know when. She had her son call me (on speaker) 2 days later to say they'd be coming for 2weeks. I said no problem. He insists it's for 2 weeks I say yeah heard you the 1st time and that's fine.
I called today to say let me know exactly when you're coming because DH and I would like to arrange for a 3day visit to his nieces before or after their visit. Told my cousin as her phone was off. She calls back this evening and says oh I'm coming stay with my friend as she's due any time. Don't worry just go about your business. I say I thought cuz said you'll be staying at my place 2 weeks. She say no, the lady has a spare room and is heavily pregnant. I say ok then let me know if you come to town. Says ok. End.
Is this too much? Forgot to add, she's known to make up stuff and for fibbing too.
How do I deal with such level of pettiness and WIBU to let her know after DC2 is born (planning to ttc soon 😉😁)? I'm irritated why is she like this? Am I just overly private for not wanting to be discussed or my life around town?