TO not pick DH up from night out?

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DH is going on his Christmas works night out tonight. I have offered to give him a lift there at 6.30, half hour drive, no probs, he'd do the same for me.
Trouble is I offered to pick him up afterwards too which he accepted but now I'm regretting offering. Late on the roads will be icy for a start and plus, I don't want to be dragging my warm arse back out into the cold at 11pm-12am. I want to get cosy with a film and a glass of wine.

AIBU to go back on my offer? Good public transport where we live so he'll have no trouble getting home.

YABU

My lovely DH has a meal out with colleagues planned for tonight. I’ve offered to collect him as there’s no public transport back to our village and taxis aren’t easily available. The roads I’ll be travelling are all rural and, last night, extremely icy.

I’m not overly enthused about the idea of heading out at 11pm to meet him, particularly as I’ll be in bed with a book by 9pm. But, he rarely goes out, he’s worked his socks off this year to support me during awful ill health and it’s the least I can do.

Tomorrow night, he’ll be working a public order shift in the city dealing with the trials and tribulations of the drunk and disorderly. He deserves some fun and a safe ride home tonight.

Curl up with a blanket, good film and a hot chocolate.

I’m sure he’ll be fine about getting home on his own! Just I’ve him a call “hey DH I know I’d said I’d pick you up as well but I’m not really feeling it now... are you ok to get a bus/Taxi Home?”

Yanbu, if there's good public transport where you live. What is the problem?

Good grief, he's a grown man, of course he should grab a taxi!

I'm surprised that he is comfortable with you turning at so late, and in such treacherous conditions.

And it's Friday - wine is compulsory!

Finally, my people are here!

Genuinely, I've not come across this whole taking partners to and from their parties business before.

Genuinely, I've not come across this whole taking partners to and from their parties business before.

Depends where you live I think, we live about a 40 minute drive from the city and that's pretty expensive in a cab(and buses stop too early) so always drive eachother in and out if we're have nights out but we don't do it much anyway so it's no big deal.

My DH wouldn't accept such an offer if I made it, as he wouldn't want me driving alone at night on icy roads.

Yeah, I totally get that, but op says good transport links, so I'm guessing she's not rural.

Yeah, I totally get that, but op says good transport links, so I'm guessing she's not rural.

Yeah that's fair enough, I still think it's bad to go back on an offer after the fact but because the roads are dodgy I have more sympathy

That’s what taxis are for. I drive back from a night out last night at midnight and it took 10 minutes to delist the windows. The whole drive was chilly and treacherous. I wouldn’t want my DP leaving a nice warm house at that time. Leave it to a professional diver who will be grateful for the work. Tell him you’ll keep the bed warm for him instead

Drove...Demist....driver

Blimey I'm surprised you offered in the first place, and there is no way i would accept such an offer from my dh! However you are perfectly entitled to change your mind. Stay at home. It's his night out, let him sort It!

It depends what hes like after a few drinks, my DP is a pain in the arse and guaranteed he'll ask me to give a mate a lift as well when I pick him up.. id ask him if he'll make his own arrangements if he can, mine would have no issue if I said I would rather not