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To think FB sharing has REALLY gone beyond the pale now?

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CheapSausagesAndSpam · 15/12/2017 03:31

I've noticed that people are sharing even more mundane things than EVER before.

I used to think photos of people's very average looking dinners were bad....think "ordinary plate of potatoes and meat" with comments like "MMMM! Been waiting all day for this"

Who cares?

Now people I know...perfectly bright people, with a good education etc...are posting shots of their frigging fireplace...then panning over to show what's on TELLY!

I'm looking at a similar view myself love! Just chill out and enjoy yourself...I'm going to post a video of me picking up dog poo on my walk or something in protest!

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CheapSausagesAndSpam · 15/12/2017 09:45

Valerrie if you were my friend on FB I wouldn't judge you posting like that at all. I'd know you were disabled and that certain things weren't easy for you.x

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crunchymint · 15/12/2017 09:48

Valerriee I have two face book friends who are pretty much housebound. They post things about managing to get out of bed and have a meal, or being in hospital. I like to know how they are doing.
Some people are a pain about face book. The key to face book is only to be face book friends with people you actually like, and that you want to know how they are doing.

PatriciaBateman · 15/12/2017 09:48

Well, it's a bit like posting on a large, open forum about the minor things that irritate you, isn't it?
I mean "who cares?" right?

I'm not saying it to be snarky, just pointing out that human beings obviously like a bit of pointless communication amongst themselves, be that online or a chat about the weather with a stranger.

It's mundane, but harmless social connection. Have never understood why it bothers so many.

crunchymint · 15/12/2017 09:49

Which is why I am not face book friends with any work colleagues or family. Only people that I actually care about.

Mia1415 · 15/12/2017 09:49

I don't understand how you can complain. People have the right to post whatever they want on their walls. If you don't like it, scroll past, or hide what they post.

KhalliWali · 15/12/2017 09:51

I don't know anyone who does this kind of stuff. Facebook is just a reflection of people you know. If you find them boring, then get some more interesting friends and then add them to Facebook.

HeckyPeck · 15/12/2017 09:55

I'm not the FB Police but in my opinion, posts about real acheivements, nice days out people have had...links to good articles or websites.

It kinda sounds like you do want to be the FB police. Wink

Banal posts are a bit annoying, but they're not hurting anyone and you could always unfollow if they're upsetting you.

crunchymint · 15/12/2017 09:58

I only have 1 friend that posts photos of meals. He is a real foodie and goes to amazing places where the food looks like works of art.

I think some people just add anyone to their face book, that is when you get issues with what appears.

LoveYouTimMinchin · 15/12/2017 10:00

I sometimes think I'm the only person in the world who really likes Facebook. I have a small friends list, I post something about once a week (never videos of what I'm watching on tv, granted) and comment here and there if things take my interest or amuse me. I also buy, sell and give away in my local area which is so much easier than Ebay or Gumtree.

I generally have a laugh on FB. I unfollow people who post pictures of animal neglect and torture and I have a massive Hmm of the "I bet most of my friends won't repost this but please share in aid of mental health awareness" or whatever.

Otherwise I like it and I keep in touch with at least 10 friends thousands of miles away and that's great.

BitOutOfPractice · 15/12/2017 10:03

But @CheapSausagesAndSpam my breakfast was really really delicious! You want to see a picture don't you? You do, don't you? I know you do!

overthetop2 · 15/12/2017 10:12

I just left Facebook. The mundane posts weren't half as bad as the passive-aggressive comments and insults people band around about controversial issues. Any election time is horrendous. Not to mention slightly racist comments and family members' controversial opinions that I'm forced to see, because I can't de-friend them. Give me "I've just had a piece of toast", any day!

Some people are bored or lonely though. I was linked to friends who were stuck at home all day with children, who probably just needed some adult interaction. It's mildly irritating, but I try to understand why they may over-share.

Fuckoffee · 15/12/2017 10:13

A few years ago I removed all of my “Facebook friends” and now I just have my real friends on Facebook. It makes a real difference to my feed. It’s interesting, relevant and because it’s much smaller I get to see lots more of my friends posts. My rule of thumb was if I didn’t feel able to pick up the phone and have a chat with them, they weren’t really my friend, just someone I happen to know.
It’s your Facebook feed, you can change it so it doesn’t show drivel.

curryforbreakfast · 15/12/2017 10:15

People always post this ranty shit, unaware that it is them that has failed to understand how social media works.

YOU chose the people on your FB. They think you are interested in what they have to say because you CHOSE them to be on your FB. You do not have to have them there, you do not have to read their posts at all.

People like the OP go on as if FB is like people shouting in the street at everyone what they had for dinner, when actually its OP going into their house, asking them to share their day and then telling other people how boring they are and how you didn't want to hear their shit.

It's not them, OP, it's you.

crunchymint · 15/12/2017 10:26

Agree curry. I always tell work colleagues that want to add me, that I have a rule of not adding people from work. I have two categories of friends. Real friends and then a few on acquaintances, people I could not refuse to friend them without real life drama. I unfollow all of these and post an occasional cute animal photo to these people. I enjoy face book.

ProperLavs · 15/12/2017 13:57

I can't stand those people ( so I hide their posts now) who always post things like" Omg I'm so f*cking angry I just want to cry" and then have loads of concerned friends asking what has happened and if they are ok only for the op to say " oh it's nothing, I'm fed up with cleaning the house"
Why?

B0033 · 15/12/2017 15:35

Quitting Facebook = best decision of 2017. I'd encourage anyone to try it.

If you need to keep in touch with a group of people, start an email group. Easy.

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 15/12/2017 18:25

Agree with you curryforbreakfast. I can understand people saying they don't like FB because it's too easy to spend hours on there instead of doing jobs that need doing, but the things that people blame FB for are things that are so easy to change. I like FB because I don't follow all of my friends, only the ones that post stuff I'm interested in, and I only follow subjects that appeal to me. I do not have a feed full of random crap because I don't follow random crap. I also have a closed group page which is the most convenient way of relaying information between us, so FB is perfect for that.

Someonessnackbitch · 16/12/2017 17:25

Is that not a bit hypocritical considering your post?

Valsie1 · 16/12/2017 17:41

Lovestonap " if it bores other people, that's a shame but it's my life". I'm not sure why you would want to put your life on FB thinking that it might bore other people. Before FB people would have their memories in photo albums for close family and friends to see.

Valerrie · 16/12/2017 19:05

That's why I use Facebook photo albums though - for close friends and family to see. My family in Australia /Africa /Holland and Canada aren't all in my living room flicking through my photo albums.

ChocolateRaisin09 · 16/12/2017 19:15

I second that quitting is the best thing I've ever done. My mum and sister are on it 24/7 and it makes me cringe when they friend my friends... They also think anything i post is directed at them. Did unfollow but my mum starts every conversation with "did you see on Facebook...?"

Meowandthen · 16/12/2017 19:17

It's all very well saying "delete Facebook" but that isn't really an option for everyone. Many people use it for business reasons, for support groups, or to keep easily in touch with friends and family around the world.

The 'stream of consciousness' posts from some people is inane and I do wonder how dull their lives must be to think others are interested that they have done some ironing, made a shopping list, or some mundane task. At least try a bit of wit or humour.

I restrict and unfollow a lot of people.

Meowandthen · 16/12/2017 19:19

And don't start me on the attention squeakers who post needy, cryptic comments and wait for the 'u ok hun' replies. Hmm

He11y · 17/12/2017 04:28

I don’t know but I imagine FB wouldn’t have survived if everyone only posted about special events, significant achievements or shared information that interests them. I’d say it’s the majority posting mundane updates that keeps the revenue flowing in and the site going.

Renster · 17/12/2017 08:29

What annoys me is people who post things like “oh I’m soooo upset!” And then when people ask what’s wrong it’s either “I can’t talk about it” or “I’ll PM you”! If you’re not prepared to go public with what’s wrong, why post in the first place?