I had a midwife appointment this morning. I’m 8 months pregnant and the midwife was very concerned as my bump actually measured smaller than at my last appointment 2 weeks ago. I haven’t seen my husband in 2 months as he’s working abroad and I’ve been taking care of my 2 year old on my own for the past 2 months with no family support (I live hundreds of miles away) whilst often not feeling great with the usual issues that go with pregnancy.
Anyway, my brother and his wife and my sister traveled through the night last night and arrived at my house this morning whilst the midwife was here. They’re staying for a week for a little holiday. SIL is the only driver. My local hospital is 1.5 hours away on two busses each way so I asked SIL if there would be any chance she could take me in to have my scan done. I was also feeling a little worried so was looking forward to having her there to hold my hand. I apologised profusely though as I was sure it would be the last thing she’d want to do after driving 8 hours through the night.
Thankfully all is well with the baby so I’m very relieved. But my sister has been off with me all afternoon. Snappy, not making eye contact etc. The midwife gave me a bit of a scare this morning as she was saying I may have to be induced and my husband isn’t even in the country. I was also worried for if the baby was going to be okay and it’s just made a hard day even harder because of how she’s been treating me. I went upstairs to bed and my mum phoned me saying that my sister was on the phone to her and she’s very upset that I didn’t invite her to my scan. I feel hurt because even if she was hurt, I don’t think it warrants the way she’s treated me all day. I also had a lot on my mind and would have gone on my own if I’d have been able to drive. I assumed a trip to the hospital wiuld have been the last thing they’d have wanted to do after such a long drive, they were all exhausted. My mum has told me not to tell my sister that I know what’s upset her as she told my mum in confidence. AIBU to think she hasn’t been fair to me with this? In all honesty, I didn’t think to stop and consider everyone’s feelings when I was told by the midwife she thought something wasn’t right with my baby.