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to be shocked by people taking a child with a temperature to a party and giving them calpol

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 15:30

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BellaLasagne · 21/04/2007 18:25

Exactly. My DD sobbed for an hour, but understood in the end (she is 8), and we made up for it later.

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind (some may say), or just incredibly sensible.

FluffyMummy123 · 21/04/2007 18:25

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 18:25

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BellaLasagne · 21/04/2007 18:26

...go on, faster....

misdee · 21/04/2007 18:27

quickly now

happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 18:27

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 18:28

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FluffyMummy123 · 21/04/2007 18:28

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 18:29

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Twiglett · 21/04/2007 18:32

that's obviously because you're an egocentric arse and the world revolves around you and your children's needs then

FluffyMummy123 · 21/04/2007 18:33

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 18:33

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misdee · 21/04/2007 18:36

she has to stay there 1minute to every year of her life. how long is that icod?

FluffyMummy123 · 21/04/2007 18:37

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 18:40

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Bucketsofdynomite · 21/04/2007 18:59

I wouldn't take a feverish poorly kid to a party just because they really wanted to go. Would also be quite shocked at thinking someone else thinking a kids' party was worth making a sick kid sicker for.

However...

...I would take them to something I really wanted to go to eg wedding / big family doo. And I would have doped 'em up good an proper and stuck 'em in a pushchair for the day (up to any age that they didn't fit in the pushchair).

Blu · 21/04/2007 19:01

Penny drops!
it was cod!
She has been to a party this afternoon - it was obviously her child!!

happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 19:02

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LadyMacbeth · 21/04/2007 19:09

No way, bloody unfair on all involved.

bozza · 21/04/2007 19:10

I do think getting the thermometer out at the party and taking the temp was a bit melodramatic and attention seeking TBH. Would you have done that bit cod?

WideWebWitch · 21/04/2007 19:12

I wouldn't get worked up about this. Plenty of children with temperatures in the street, at school, in shops, all over the world. So I'm with cod I guess.

Lullabyloo · 21/04/2007 19:19

Very inconsiderate behaviour imo.

DaphneHarvey · 21/04/2007 19:34

Of course children can pick up a bug anywhere - and ime mainly they do.

But to deliberately take a sick child, when you don't know whether they are infectious or not, to a party where they will be in close contact with lots of other children, sharing food, playing games etc, therefore significantly increasing the risk of other children getting it ... not exactly shocking, but unbelievably selfish imho. Yes, of course the kid wanted to go to the party - so what exactly is wrong with saying no, sorry this time you don't go, you're not well enough? There are going to be hundreds of other parties in this child's life! Why can't people say no to their offspring anymore?

Bellalasagne - I agree completely, I would keep siblings away too if there's a stomach bug in the house.

It is just tiresome, tedious, expensive (sometimes, for parents who have to take time off work to look after sick children) -when your kids are ill. They already get hundreds of bugs. Who wants to be exposed to any more?

Marina · 21/04/2007 19:39

If the child was as ill as you describe then I do think it was odd of the parents to keep him there. That sounds like quite a high fever.
I have no problem with bugs etc (mine both went to nursery so were exposed to Porton Down equivalents every day) but I think this sort of thing is a bit unfair on families where compromised immunity is an issue.
In general it wouldn't bother me unduly, but I really wouldn't do this myself. I'm with DG and Bella - a child shivering with fever is better off at home in the quiet, poor little guy.

Marina · 21/04/2007 19:39

Oh and I agree with Daphne too from the looks of things