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to be shocked by people taking a child with a temperature to a party and giving them calpol

120 replies

happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 15:30

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lucyellensmum · 21/04/2007 16:17

wambam, sure i bet he was wanting to go to the party but his temp was seriously high, he had the shakes according to OP.
I don't think it is unreasonable to expect to keep their grollies to themselves instead of spreading it about, i certainly don't want to pick up bugs, so why should i be blase (spelling, having a seniour moment) about my child getting one. Of course i do appreciate that once at school etc its inevitable but that is qutie different. I wonder if this person checked with the party organiser if this was ok? If she had asked me i would have politely asked her not to come im afraid. She could have made it up to her son by a day out or something when better.

kslatts · 21/04/2007 16:37

I don't really think it's a big deal, at my dd's party a little boy came, his mum explained that he had a temp. but she had just given him calpol and had brought him as he didn't want to miss the party and she was hoping the calpol would bring down his temp. She stayed for a while and then he started to feel better so she left her mobile number and went home, by the end of the party he was fine and running around with everyone else.

I agree that kids pick up bugs all over the place.

WigWamBam · 21/04/2007 16:38

You can pick up bugs just walking down the street. Wherever there are children there are bugs ... and often it's those who look well who are carrying them.

I just think life's too short and there are more important things to get stressed about than that.

LIZS · 21/04/2007 16:43

Would n't take an obviously ill child to a party but did take ds to a do at Easter and dosed him on Nurofen as he had earache. He was a bit out of sorts too but unlikely to be conatgious.

FluffyMummy123 · 21/04/2007 16:43

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DarrellRivers · 21/04/2007 16:51

I sometimes take a few paracetamol before a party, sometimes an adult one , most often a childrens party.More often due to a headache than a fever however
Am i being unreasonable?
Perhaps I shouldbn't be allowed to go

lucyellensmum · 21/04/2007 16:56

oh darryl, you are bad! Remind me to do the same the next time i have to go to a childrens party. If im going to an adults one, i'll stick with the vit B to boost my liver!

Wotzsaname · 21/04/2007 17:00

Well if the parent stayed to look after their child I don't see what the problem is its not like they expected you to look after the child.

If they are all together school/nursery they will problably have caught it by now.

Chattyhan · 21/04/2007 17:05

I definately think it's good a parent stayed with the child. It wouldn't have been fair to leave the child for the organisers to care for. Also agree should ask organisers if it's ok.

Lol Darrell - At least it was just a headache and not the start of a violent stomach bug!!!

wheresthehamster · 21/04/2007 17:14

If my children desperately wanted to go I used to let them.

Same if someone came to ours unwell it wouldn't bother me - I'd just call the parents if they got distressed.

The child has probably picked up the bug from one of the other children at the party anyway!

hayes · 21/04/2007 17:17

I wouldn't do it but know others that have

Troutpout · 21/04/2007 17:23

i wouldn't do it...but i wouldn't be shocked if someone else dis. Nothing shocks me anymore

Wotzsaname · 21/04/2007 17:34

just want to add - I would not take dds if the weren't well.

DumbledoresGirl · 21/04/2007 17:39

I think it is wrong. An ill child should be at home, preferably quietly lying on the sofa and preferably still, in bed. (just my opinion I know!) I don't think it is relevant that the child might have been desperately keen to go to the party, and I also don't think it is relevant that everyone at the party might already have been exposed to the bug at school/playgroup.

It is selfish to spread the bug around more than is necessary, and it could even be harmful to the child who is already ill.

DumbledoresGirl · 21/04/2007 17:41

Having said that, I annoyed some people here not so long ago when I said that I took my children to sainsburys when they had chicken pox. But, the whole point about that was that they weren't feeling ill, and also, it was necessary for me to buy food. A child with a temperature of 40 degrees could not have been feeling well (they wouldn't have needed the calpol if they were) and a party is not an essential activity.

rabbleraiser · 21/04/2007 17:41

What's Calpol?

DumbledoresGirl · 21/04/2007 17:42

Liquid paracetamol for children.

rabbleraiser · 21/04/2007 17:43

Dumbles ... I was just trying to inject a little humour

DumbledoresGirl · 21/04/2007 17:46

Oh sorry. PMSL. I don't recognise your name and wondered if you were foreign!

Polgara2 · 21/04/2007 17:46

What DG said!

DumbledoresGirl · 21/04/2007 17:46

Is foreign in that context derogatory? Oh well, you know what I mean......

rabbleraiser · 21/04/2007 17:49

We've spoken before, Dumbles. I was dumbymummy up until a couple of days ago! Pleased to meet you again under my new guise.

Blandmum · 21/04/2007 17:50

a Kid with a 40 degree temp would usually feel quite rough.

When my kids have had temps that high they just want to sleep and whinge And who can blame them.

rabbleraiser · 21/04/2007 17:50

And no, 'foreign' in that context is not derogatory. Must we take PC too far? DG simply meant that if I was not from this kingdom, I might not know what Calpol was.

DumbledoresGirl · 21/04/2007 17:51

Hello dumbymummy. Gawd, I find all these name changes really hard to keep up with! Is rabbleraiser more suited to your MN personality?

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