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to be shocked by people taking a child with a temperature to a party and giving them calpol

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 15:30

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WigWamBam · 21/04/2007 17:53

It may be wrong to assume that the child is infectious though.

Dd always has a high temperature with ear infections, high enough that she generally wakes in the night with hallucinations ... she would still have wanted to have gone to the party.

Blandmum · 21/04/2007 17:54

agree that high temp does not always equal infectious.

wwb your dd must be a tough little trouper When mine have a temp they go all soggy!

DumbledoresGirl · 21/04/2007 17:57

It can't really be good for the child to be at a party with a temperature of 40 degrees, though can it? Regardless of whether they are infectious or not, their bodies must be fighting the virus and I don't think it can be helpful to them to not be resting quietly at home.

Twiglett · 21/04/2007 17:57

who the hell knows whether its infectious or not though .. if your kid's spiking a high temp of 40 take the bugger home

rabbleraiser · 21/04/2007 17:58

In some respects, Dumbles. Although I can hardly be accused of raising a rabble with only 1 ds ... but I'm trying.

Twiglett · 21/04/2007 17:59

I would be really pissed off if a couple of days later my kids came down with a high temp bug just because some arse thought their kid should be at a party with a temp

it would really annoy the feck out of me

I am so majorly pre-menstrual I am looking for a fight by the way

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 17:59

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DumbledoresGirl · 21/04/2007 17:59

You won't get one from me Twig. I agree with you 100% here.

misdee · 21/04/2007 18:00

i would be fuming.

niceglasses · 21/04/2007 18:03

Wouldn't worry me too much - think we can be precious about bugs and stuff. Winds me up - they can catch them anywhere for Gawds sake.

SSShakeTheChi · 21/04/2007 18:04

I wouldn't take a dc to a party (or anywhere much except for the doctor's) with a temp of 40 degrees.

cat64 · 21/04/2007 18:06

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 18:07

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Twiglett · 21/04/2007 18:07

its a party

some families try to avoid obvious infections due to compromised immunities in the family and whilst one can't avoid all of them one can do one's best

taking an ill child to a party is patheticly egocentric because patently your family is the only one that counts in this world

arses

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 18:09

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niceglasses · 21/04/2007 18:10

Not saying I would do it. I think the OP question was 'would you be shocked'. No, wouldn't be - you can catch a bug on a bus, on a loo handle, in the air, at toddler group, most of them before any obvious sign of infection. Don't get this stay away carry on, unless its something very risky of course.

misdee · 21/04/2007 18:11

thanks twiglett for saying tghat, as you know thats our family situation. and will be forever.

the cough + cold that my dd's had, went to dh chest and he now has a lower left lung infection.

Wotzsaname · 21/04/2007 18:11

One time child with raging temp came to my dds party. Mum left child and was 45 mins late picking her up. I had attend to child who was too ill to join in and so hot I had to take her top off (vest on) and give her calpol! Mum not bothered when she picked her up late either.

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 18:12

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Spidermama · 21/04/2007 18:13

It wouldn't bother me a bit.

misdee · 21/04/2007 18:14

it is. If we are out with dh and see a spotty child, we tend to move away. i dread the kids getting ill as it means that dh will get ill and get it worse. it will be even worse after his transplant. his immunity isnt compromised as yet, but will be post-tx. he just gets all illnesses worse than everyone else atm.

he is currently on extyra anti biotics for the lung infection.

Polgara2 · 21/04/2007 18:15

Sometimes I wish I had the nerve to post as vehemently as Twiglett - I haven't but I do agree with her .

BellaLasagne · 21/04/2007 18:19

I had the opposite problem a couple of weeks ago. My DS threw up majestically in the night witha tummy bug and DD was due at a sleepover the following night. I withdrew her from the sleepover in case she either had the bug or was carrying it as she would have been sleeping over with 9 other children 3 days before Easter.

Can you imagine the destruction that one would have caused?!

The reason I did it was that a similar thing happened last term. A group of boys had a sleepover for a friends birthday and they all went down with a horrendous bug in the week that followed, which must have come from one of them carrying it unknowingly. Each child then gave it to their siblings and parents, the end result being that most of the school went down with it within 2 weeks.

Anyway, despite initial tears, DD was fine and didn't go down with the bug herself, and had a lovely day with her friend the following week to make up for the disappointment. BUT I would not have forgiven myself if she had got it and passed it on to all those other children.

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happybiggirl · 21/04/2007 18:20

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sunnysideup · 21/04/2007 18:23

I wouldn't take a child with a temp of 40 to a party, no way.

Quite apart from the likelihood of passing on whatever the virus might be, a child with a temp that high needs to be resting at home and being looked after, not be at a party.

TBH, so what if the child desperately wants to go - they desperately want alot of inappropriate things. The parent has a responsibility to be the adult and tell the child no!