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AIBU?

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Has anyone ever recognised themselves on AIBU?

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AuntieAunt · 12/12/2017 23:10

Mumsnet is a secret world where nobody I know admits or talks they're a member/user. I absolutely love reading AIBU or a good 'ld post about CF neighbours/mums/work collegues but I have often wondered if people have sussed out who the op is, or if a post is about them/someone they know?

Sometimes I read a post and think there must be another side to this as someone cant be that much of a CF and i'd love to see a bust up on the playground with some mum accusing another for writing about their kid/life/party on Mn but that wouldn't be very British.. but then again i'm just a nanny and only wave the kids onto the bus during school terms... (I wonder if the mum of the kids I nanny is on here, if so, I need a pay rise )

OP posts:

peachgreen · 13/12/2017 12:08

No, but I posted about something v. hurtful someone had said to me and then a few months later realised (from her posts) that she's a MN member. No idea if she's seen it and I haven't seen her posting in a while, but we're not close and I name-changed very rapidly afterwards so it wouldn't be too disastrous if she had (especially because it really WAS very hurtful and she knows it!).

BatShite · 13/12/2017 13:37

Did she know it was you, BatShite?

Yes, which was why it was so awkward

She actually came in all 'I read the thread you made about me on mumsnet last night'

KeepServingTheDrinks · 14/12/2017 11:35

Bloddy hell!

Gutted about the cake thread!

VivaLeBeaver · 14/12/2017 11:39

Yes. I used to teach a very specific qualification. One of the students slagged me and the course off on here. Very obviously me and I knew which student. I didn't reply

haveacupoftea · 14/12/2017 11:42

I have several friends who post here but I haven't recognised their threads. Good forum etiquette is to click out of the thread once you've realised it's somebody you know IRL and not to look out for their username in future.

Littlehenrylee · 14/12/2017 11:45

Good forum etiquette is one thing. Human nature is another thing entirely.......

BatShite · 14/12/2017 13:10

Good forum etiquette is to click out of the thread once you've realised it's somebody you know IRL and not to look out for their username in future.

Yeah, I am sure this happens

If I recognized someone I would say I had done this, when really I would have advance searched in a flash just to be a nosy fucker

NamedyChangedy · 14/12/2017 13:32

I’ve recognised a thread about me by a friend of a friend, I think it was a WWYD rather an AIBU. It was actually very fair and balanced and I had already apologised IRL so didn’t think I would be adding anything by posting.

whataconundrum · 14/12/2017 13:37

@batshite Amen to that!

lastqueenofscotland · 14/12/2017 13:38

I have definitely recognised my ex MIL on here a few times

RatRolyPoly · 14/12/2017 13:42

Ain't nobody gonna post about me. I live in Norfolk where only five of us have t'internet, and the other four are teenaged tech-geeks.

thecatfromjapan · 14/12/2017 13:51

I spotted someone I worked with.

She started a thread in AIBU about her child's school, was roundly told she was being unreasonable and then started the conversation with me the following day.

I was soo tempted to print out the thread and secretly circulate it. She was a total pain to work with.

But I didn't.

Good me.

Soubriquet · 14/12/2017 14:02

I haven't personally but I did see one where a woman recognised herself

A mum had come on to complain about a woman leaving an almost full lunch to walk out of the cafe when her toddler wouldn't stop crying. She thought it was rude the woman left as she made it clear it was the mums fault.

Later on, the woman actually replied on the thread itself! She has autism and was very sound sensitive so felt she had to leave in order to avoid a meltdown.

TiredBefuddledRose · 14/12/2017 22:35

I don't care if someone recognises me from here and it's kind of amusing when if I accidentally mention one of my kids names I get half a dozen private messages warning me that I did, what does it actually matter? I don't lie and I don't write goady crap so couldn't give a monkeys.

However, I do sometimes get paranoid I might end up on here like when I told the kids off in H&M the other day and some woman was staring, or if I engage my children in conversation about anything when we're on a train / in a cafe I expect to end up on a performance parenting thread.

I'm sure I do annoy people sometimes so I will probably be the subject of a post one day soon.

cariadlet · 14/12/2017 23:13

I never have, but I'm a teacher and whenever I see a thread with "teacher" or "school" in the title I panic in case it's somebody complaining about something that I've said or done.

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