To think about trying for another baby

[sunshine546]

At 41? I have one dc who is 5. Thought I was done but now having a wobble!

Life is so much easier now and I think that's why I've only just started to consider this but I think it's prob too late...

Thanks for all the comments .. I think you are right and it probably is bonkers chocolate because on paper everything points to a big fat no:-

Last time I spoke to dh ( about a year ago) he was happy with our lot and not bothered about having another one
We have no family support locally and struggled in the early days with ds
I have a demanding career which is just getting back on track now ds is at school
I don't think we would cope if baby had health issues
I don't think we would cope if we had twins
My parents are mid seventies live far away and I am an only child so worry how much they will need me in the next few years
I worry about affect on ds
I don't really think baby will stop ds being lonely or provide a playmate due to 6 year age gap
I am not too worried about ds being lonely as he is v sociable and I am an only and didn't feel lonely growing up ( but have as an adult!)
Finances are ok but obviously would be easier if we stick with one child

The only points in favour are:-

I don't want to regret this decision for the rest of my life
If I am able to have another child and they make me feel like I do about ds then that will be amazing ( it is difficult for me to imagine how I could love anyone as much as ds) but I'm sure thats something all mums of more than one child go through!

Feel better having written all of that down!

And thanks to everyone who has posted its really helpful as can't really discuss it with anyone in RL

And congrats to those posters who have new babies... and hugs for those who have suffered losses x

Go for it ..you will regret it otherwise ...

Happy new year! I think the best thing I can do is have a proper chat with dh and see what he thinks

Spoke to dh and he said we should talk about it again on the weekend. He did not say that it was a terrible idea so that's good!

I think the last post answers your question about whether you want to try, OP!

Lots of luck with whatever you choose to do.

I suppose so Rebecca! Thanks