AIBU to hate Mum's attempts to micromanage our lives!

[Emerald92]

Morning everyone!

Let me start by saying I really like MIL, she's always nice to talk to when I see her etc. BUT she is a massive control freak! It drives me bonkers! She's in her mid forties with a 10yo DC of her own so why she feels the need to try and manage our lives, I don't know!

DP and I have been together for a while now and she's obviously not going to change but one day I'm going to bite back.

Classic example - Yesterday DP gets a message from MIL asking if were seeing family over the next few weeks and points out she's busy every weekend until after Christmas, fair enough. DP replies yeah we'll be travelling home to see everyone over the next couple of weekends.

She then goes on to say that we should invite DGMIL over to ours for a change. Maybe we can cook for her? Do a spread or little buffet? You could do it this weekend blah blah blah.

So she's basically just messaged yo try and arrange our weekend for us, who we should see and what we should be doing. When we see and what we do with DGMIL has nothing to do with her especially if she's not here to join in. Grrrr

I know it seems very petty and I should not get worked up about it. BUT nearly every time she messages us she has to try and dictate our lives

AIBU to be annoyed? I'm obviously not going to fall out with her over it or anything but I do feel pretty justified feeling few up of it!

[Cantuccit]

Priscilla I think micro managing is correct actually.

OP doesn't say it was merely a suggestion. Her MIL said they should invite DGMIL to their, cook for her, put on a spread or a buffet and even tells her when to do it (this weekend).

That is micro managing.

[Emerald92]

Thanks all! Glad to know I'm not the only one who thinks she's over stepping the mark.