To say that in general men tend to cheat more often than women?

[QueenAmongstMen]

Me and DH have been watching a film where in typical cliche style the guy has an affair with a much younger colleague whilst his wife is sitting at home.

I passed a comment that it's always the same old story, men cheating on wives, men cheating on girlfriends etc etc

He said that I was wrong and women have just as many affairs or cheat on their partners just as often as men do.

We had to agree to disagree.

I know women do cheat but I'm right, aren't I?

I disagree. Men are more likely to be found out in my experience. Most adulterers I know are female.

Even if women DO cheat (in a relationship,) men usually cheat first.

Men will cheat because they can, because it's on offer, and because they are weak.

Women only cheat (usually) when they are unhappy in their relationship.

But yeah, overall, men are more unfaithful than women. They also flirt a lot more with other women. They go batshit if their woman flirts with men though.

I suspect men often have more opportunity, but IME if a couple don't have children, both work, etc, there's little difference.

There might be differences in how they rationalise it to themselves - a woman might say she deserves fun or the relationship is practically over anyway, a man might say he couldn't help it or what his partner didn't know wouldn't hurt her.

I do think men cheat more than women. Well the couples I know who have split due to infidelity (myself included) it's been the man who's cheated.

None of the men wanted to split. They just wAnted to have their cake and eat it too.

This is just my experience though.

You can't generalise really.

I know of 6 different people who have all been unfaithful to varying degrees... 5 women, 1 man.

@oliveinacampervan What a sexist, ridiculous comment.

I have known 11 different couples - in the last 7 year alone, where one of them cheated.

9 of those times, it was the man, who was unfaithful.

Accurate though @emerald

Men nearly always cheat first in a relationship.

I know loads of men that cheat on their partners but not so many women. That said I think its probably more evenly split than you think.
These men are cheating with someone after all, the female party is just as likely to be involved with someone.

This is a weird thread. Surely, by definition, it has to be 50/50. Or, if men cheat more often than women, the women who cheat would have to do it with multiple men. It is impossible to cheat on your own!

This topic came up with Lucy Beresford on LBC’s ‘sex and relationship show’ a few months ago and I think she was saying new stats show more women are now the adulterer, or it is at the very least increasing. Sorry not helpful as can’t remember exact details but more/or increasing numbers of women are having affairs because they can i.e. women have careers these days and are out of the house more = so more opportunity to cheat.

Show me some statistics and I'll believe you. On average more men cheat than women (not much more) but I think it's ridiculous for you to try and justify that most women cheat because their partner did first or because they're unhappy. Believe it or not some women can be just as bad if not worse than men!

This has never been true. Both men and women cheat equally (in fact women were often less likely to be found out - i.e the milkman / postman stereotype) but society doesn’t like talking about cheating women.

I think it's a lot easier for men to cheat, as they tend to work away from home more and not be the primary caregiver.

I think there's more stigma about women cheating, so female cheats are less likely to confess to doing it, even to friends etc. And they tend not to get caught as often too.

I read some stats last year indicating about 22% of men cheat and about 14% women, so men are ahead but not by much. Opportunity might account for the difference I assume.

The most interesting fact I thought was that a person who has previously cheated was nearly 4 times as likely to cheat again.

Women are cleverer about it, IMO

Yes but Larry those men may be cheating in their partners with someone who was single.

Men are sexually unfaithful more than double the percentage of women if you count prostitution

Gimmer here. In my experience, men are more likely to cheat - and women are more likely to leave a relationship if they are unhappy. I do feel men are far more 'have cake and eat it too'.

Both the same but men are more likely to get caught because they are such plonkers.

There are a lot of unfounded, bullshit generalisations on this thread.

'Men' as a sex are not weaker. That's literally tarring everyone with the same brush. That's like 'females' as a sex prefer chicken to beef.
I'm sure I could find 9/10 female friends that this would apply to.... still makes it a bullshit statistic

*like saying

Are all these cheating men cheating with other men or with women? Are the women they are cheating with cheating with multiple men who are each only having one affair with this Shedevil? Obviously maths tells you that heterosexual men and women must cheat at the same rate. There's different social pressure on them though that means they admit to cheating/being cheated on at different rates.