Neighbor complaint - people using his drive to turn

[HarveySherlock]

Sorry I can't add diagram.

So we live on the cul de sack with a turning area. Each house has a driveway. No one parks in the turning area as we have large driveways and there is in shot parking as well.

Since we moved in earlier this year for some reason people use our drive to turn rather than going to the end of the road and use the turning area. This was particularly annoying in the dark evening with car lights.

We got a new fence with automatic driveway gates added last week. This now means people can't use our drive to turn. Our next door neighbor came over yesterday to complain that people are now using his drive instead of ours. We told him there isn't anything we can do. We suggested he put up a sign saying no turning.

He has now posted a note through the door (even though I'm working from home) saying he will be complaining about us at tonight's residents meeting.. He thinks we should have discussed our fence/gate plans with neighbors before installing them as they now have to deal with what was our problem. We didn't need permission for the fence or gates.

Aibu to think that people turning on his drive isn't our problem?

[Justgivemesomepeace]

Bonkers logic. If it was me I'd have one go at reasonableness and go see him before the meeting. I would say you totally understand how irritating it is hence the gates you installed at great expense to yourselves. I would be happy to accompany him to the meeting and support him in raising the issue of the residents turning in people's drives and reinforce that they should be using the turning area. If he still insists it's your fault id leave him to it.

[BitOutOfPractice]

@treeofhearts

Penguin billiards?

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

Send him a leaflet for penguin billiards

Penguin billiards?

Have I missed an exciting new pub sport?

(Nice to know it isn't just me the autocorrect hates!)

[metalmum15]

What a prat. And I'm sure the rest of the neighbours will think so too. Make sure from now on every time you do any kind of alteration to your home, diy, painting, new furniture, gardening etc, you inform him of it. Preferably several times a week.

[CheekyFuckersAreEntertaining]

Righto. That's this thread bookmarked and watched. I simply MUST know the outcome of the residents meeting. OP, for the benefit of every CF victim on MN, you need to go and tell us how he tries to justify his stance on this. Pleeeease!

[BiddyPop]

I suspect that EdithFinch has the answer - you've blocked HIS way to turn around!!

[metalmum15]

I'm just jealous we don't have a residents meeting, the street I live on is full of cheeky fuckers, it would make for very entertaining evenings.

[Rubbermaid]

Haha what a cheeky fucker! So he was perfectly happy for it to be your problem?

[notapizzaeater]

So it’s alright for them to turn in your drive but not his, cf. I’d have to go to the residents meeting

[Jaxhog]

YANBU. Although it is usually a good idea to give neighbours a heads up when making such changes. Only neighbourly, as some people can be very strange. Like this.

At the meeting, why not suggest that you all work together to discourage this antisocial behaviour.

[ForgivenessIsDivine]

Go along and nod sagely when he talks and agree with him when he talks about how annoying it is... Yes, lovely neighbour.. that's why we got our gates.. try not to laugh..

[MsJolly]

Brilliantly mad neighbours!

[HopingForSomeSnow]

I remember when I was a kid my dad built a wall across part of our drive. A neighbour came round to complain because her coal delivery truck was now having to turn round on her drive, instead of ours! She wanted my dad to knock the wall down.

[LittleDorritt]

This is hilarious and jaw dropping in equal measure.

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

This is the funniest thingI heard in ages! Wow, what lack of self awareness.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

You have a residents meeting. You must live in a nice neighbourhood. Boo hoo. Poor him.

[Traffig]

It will be the best attended residents meeting ever!

[LadyGAgain]

Can I come?
Seriously he sounds bat-shit crazy. And you can't reason with crazy. Bet your other neighbours have a good giggle at his expense too. Please do feedback OP!

[diddl]

"he will be complaining about us at tonight's residents meeting."


Priceless.

He just needs to be asking his neighbours to use the turning circle!

[Blackteadrinker77]

I always try to think of things from the other persons view point but I can't begin to see how he is blaming you.

[BluePheasant]

Haha what an idiot. So he was happy for everyone to turn in your driveway, you dealt with the problem on your own property without making a fuss and somehow you’re in the wrong! He’s deluded.
I hope you’re going to the meeting to hear his “complaint”

[Gemini69]

Can I attend this meeting.. just to watch with popcorn

[ObscuredbyFog]

Take the details of where you got your gates from to the meeting and give everyone a copy so no-one has to be the only un-gated drive which will force all the drive-turners to be circle turners instead.

Job done!

[HarveySherlock]

Meeting is at 6pm. I've told DH he needs to put up DSSs instead of me as I have a meeting to attend.

We always intended to install a fence and gates so checked before we bought that we could. We got written confirmation from the sellers and from our lawyer (who was BIL).

When neighbor came round yesterday he asked to speak with DH, even though I opened the door. He is a bit odd, the neighbor not DH.