to be upset that my children haven't been to invited to a birthday party

[happybiggirl]

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my eldest has never been invited to anyones party and i hate it. i feel so rejected on his behalf, so i know how you feel. it's not nice.

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It's a tough one, because from a kid's perspective it can be a really big, really remembered (for ever) type of exclusion. I clearly remember being nine and not being invited to a girl's birthday party, even though I'd expected to be and had even gone out and bought her a present from my own pocket money.
And it's funny, because I don't remember that much from my childhood, but this seemed to stick.

For what it's worth, she seems rude at best. You're better than her, so rise, rise, rise above it.

he's nearly 8, Happy.

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cat64 - i have to disagree that it's unreasonable to be upset that your child doesn't get invited to parties.

it is hurtful and upsetting as a parent. it's not unreasonable to feel that.

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what's your standing on the whole class or only one or two invited thing Cod? I only want to invite about 10 to dd's party. Apparently I may be committing social suicide?!

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Just want to have it in our garden, not going the whole bouncy castle/entertainer route. Think I will drop invitations through doors not give out at nursery. I don't even know half the children in dd's class so definitely not having a whole class thing.

Lad who lives NEXT DOOR has been invited to 3 of DS parties.

Boys chat over the fence almost every afternoon. Many playdates (both sides hosting, though I find the other lad a handful), they get into scraps at school sometimes, though -- not least because they play so much together.

NEVER had an invite back to the other boy's parties. Used to bother me, but can't be asked, any more.

That is rude IMO. Will be inviting children who have invited dd and any others she wants (up to 10ish!)

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what if your child never gets invited to any parties cod? never has. nobody at all. in 4 years of school? come on, that's worth a maternal tear or two!!!

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Sorry to hear that Mtpw. Must be so hard Does it make him sad?

I think mtpw profile prob. explains why.

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bingo Dances! check me out Happy! i have moaned about it before on here.

i dont know how aware he is about being left out all the time but the other week, ds2 was going to a party - this gets me, ds2 gets invited to loads, and he's autistic too, but not as challenging -

anyway, the party. ds1 was so excited. he passed ds2 the party outfit and straighted his hat and smiled and laughed and handed ds2 the wrapped gift and said "give to X".

watching that was more upsetting than if he had gone off on one.

and as soon as ds2 got back, ds1 took the outfit off him and wore it himself.

i cried for ages.

i go on about this so much on here. please stop allowing me to hijack them! im sorry happy, i cant seem to stop myself.

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i'm in derbyshire Happy. but if you are willing to invite my eldest to a party

I'll come to Wales!!!!!!!