Make postnatal depression?

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Is there a male specific term for depression relating to the birth of a child?

My partner has depression, and isn't coping. He doesn't enjoy our child, or have any pleasure in our life any longer. I work 3 days a week ( 4 hour shifts) and he constantly texts me to tell me how the baby screams for hours with him ( no health issues, he's fine with me). He doesn't want our life and is current stomping around the house in anger because he has had no sleep and has to work tomorrow. He really cannot cope with the smallest amount of tiredness and is blaming the baby for being awake.

He won't go to the doctors for advice or treatment and is being very hard on himself for feeling this way. I'm just very worried.

Has anyone else been through similar? Did your partner leave?

I'm so sorry he's subjecting you to his anger like this.
I'd be telling him to go as you can't live like this.

So sorry that you're going through this. In effect, you're a single parent with an angry toddler for a partner. He won't seek help which is putting pressure on you. It might be easier on you if he did go - no way should you leave because he can't cope. Do you have relatives in the area who may be able to help at all?

My mum helps lots. His refuses to talk to him and he isn't close to his dad. He has a lot of issues with them which cloud his thinking.

I'll try to talk to him again.

How's it going OP? Sounds so stressful and sad for both of you. I'm not excusing his behaviour at all but I don't agree he's an angry toddler. He's a man with anxiety issues and more that we don't know if I'm sure who needs help. Many of us will know that it's really hard to accept that you need help at times. Maybe this is a bit of a crisis that will push him towards it. But you need looked after too OP. You said he's working today, hope you're getting some support or nice things for yourself, you must be so worried.

He's text me to say he's struggling at work. He's arguing with people and not performing well due to being tired. I've been in all day with all four kids.

So sorry you're struggling op. But...I would actually be afraid to leave a baby with someone like this. You say the baby screams when he's with your dh who is obviously depressed , frustrated amd angry with his life. The depression shows in his misery with every aspect of his life and now at work - but if he refuses to get/ask for/agree to help then it might well be best if you part till he can accept it. Can your mum help with childcare in the meantime?

No, she works when I do. It's just us. I truly believe he would leave rather than hurt the baby. DS does scream like a banshee without me, I can hear him as I approach the house sometimes. Poor DP will be there jiggling him to try and calm him. It breaks my heart to see how hurt he is when DS settles for me.

I think he's agreed to go to the doctor as well this week. I'm not going to push it but I'll gently enquire on Tuesday if he's made an appointment.

Fingers crossed.