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To not be going on a Christmas night out this year?

37 replies

Sanshin · 08/12/2017 16:23

I'm a bit of a hermit and an introvert and all out antisocial bastard. Saying that though, I used to kind of like Christmas nights outs ... everyone merry raising glasses and singing along to Slade in the pubs. The last time I did this was about 6 years ago when I was single. I kind of miss it.

But in the other hand I like being warm and cosy at home with my dog, chocolate and a good film and really can't be arsed with nights outs these days.

I've been invited to the works do but I'm not going because a) I don't know anyone well enough and b) I'm an ex alcoholic and don't entirely trust myself in an environment where drink is unlimited.

So I won't be doing it this year. I'm slightly jealous that DH will be out having a whale of a time with his mates whilst I'm at home on my Todd but I know that is unreasonable.

Anyone else NOT going on a Christmas night out this year?

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lazyarse123 · 08/12/2017 16:27

I'm not. I too like my home comforts. Enjoy your peace and quiet.

1happyhippie · 08/12/2017 16:30

I'm not either, I have just started a new job and their works do is this weekend, I don't know anyone yet.
I'm really not that fussed to be honest. I have a few family get togethers coming up so that will do.
It's too cold out anyway

Insomnibrat · 08/12/2017 16:32

I'm more glad than not that I'm not going out out this Christmas. I know there's the fear of missing out but honestly, it's pretty overrated.
Christmas is very home centric for me and I don't feel guilty in the slightest

inlectorecumbit · 08/12/2017 16:33

I'm not going either. Made a pathetic excuse and l am now in for the night (apart from walking the dog later). Looking forward to I'm a celebrity all warm and cosy in the house. I really can't be arsed with all the fakeness of it all.
I am quite happy being an Introvert

PuppyMonkey · 08/12/2017 16:37

I'm due to go out with the mums from DD school tomorrow night. I usually enjoy it but really can't be arsed this year.

Number one - bad snow is forecast and we'd be getting taxis home, can imagine it being a nightmare with everyone fighting in the queues etc. Or worse, the roads get so bad we're stranded.

NUmber two - organiser mum has booked Cosmo. I like Cosmo as a rule, but feel a bit meh about the thought of that being my special Xmas night out.

Number three - I have wine and chocolate in at home and Strictly will be on. Would prefer to do that

liquidrevolution · 08/12/2017 16:38

No Christmas night out here as well.im not going to mine as 1.5hr commute each eay and will have to drive and i was uninvited from DHs as not enough room in pub (they left it till last minute and can't squeeze everyone on table). Not fussed though.

Have also stopped drinking this year so don't fancy being sober among drunks. I'll dance to slade in the kitchen with DD while baking.

champagneplanet · 08/12/2017 17:20

YANBU, I think Christmas is wonderful spent at home in the warm with family/friends and lovely food and drink.

I like to go out on nights out because I want to, not because I feel like I should 'because it's Christmas'. Everything is overpriced, service isn't as good, everywhere is so busy and it's a nightmare trying to get home, that's not a good night out to me!

ConciseandNice · 08/12/2017 17:23

I love not going to one. YANBU, especially if you are antisocial. Does this involve violence and spitting? Or do you mean unsocial? ;)

OhYouBadBadKitten · 08/12/2017 17:24

I’m not because I’m self employed. dh also works from home sometimes, so I did suggest we have a quick lunchtime party and have a shag on top of our printer.

He says our printer is too small. excuses, excuses.

Crunchymum · 08/12/2017 17:25

I'm missing mine this year.

It's at a big, posh hotel (so black tie) and I'm heavily pregnant and have gestational diabetes.

YouTheCat · 08/12/2017 17:26

Not going on the work Christmas do, which is tonight, as they aren't eating until after 8.30 and that just means a whole, sleepless night of heartburn and feeling shit.

I'm going to a rock bar to see a Tenacious D tribute act instead.

gamerwidow · 08/12/2017 17:31

I am going to the work do next week but I’d rather be at home watching catch up tv with my DH.
Nothing against my work mates, they’re great but this is hibernation weather.

10storeylovesong · 08/12/2017 17:33

Not going on one here either. DS2 is 10 weeks old and I just can't face leaving him yet so cancelled work do, school mum do and friends do. Lost around £60 in deposits!

welshweasel · 08/12/2017 17:36

It’s my work night out tonight. Sadly I’m on call all weekend so I’m not going. I would have gone otherwise as it’s in a lovely pub where the food would have been good and I could have walked home. DH has his next Friday, it starts at lunchtime! Thankfully he works too far away to come home so he’s staying in a hotel and I’ll be at home with the kids, drinking wine and watching shit on TV.

kaytee87 · 08/12/2017 17:46

I've broken my ankle & leg so won't be going anywhere or doing anything

Op get some friends together and have a Christmas night out at the cinema the night your dh is out or invite them round for a Christmas movie night with pizzas.

MiniTheMinx · 08/12/2017 17:51

Kaytee hope you're mended soon.

I'm not going on the works Christmas night out, neither is DP. I can't face train travel 8hrs work plus another two train trips and an early start of 7am the next morning. I'm too old for all this

altiara · 08/12/2017 17:59

OP have you seen the Off the Leash cartoon of the lady sat in the sofa petting her dog, then someone calls and invites her out, she looks at her dog and says she’s busy!
That’s what happens when you have a dog Going out isn’t as good as staying in with dog, chocs and TV.

I am going to my work Christmas party and they said I could stay over at the hotel, so obviously I said great, then immediately afterwards I thought no I don’t want to stay, I want to go home and see my dog (not my DCs!)

londonpia · 08/12/2017 18:01

I'm organising mine so I have to go! It's a small team, and we are going to a local pub. It will probably finish early, which suits me fine. DH is starting his at midday- I am not looking forward to the morning after!

FlouncyDoves · 08/12/2017 18:03

SAHD here...I’m having my own worlds Christmas party when my DD goes to bed. It’s next Wednesday night. Whiskey at the ready, Christmas tunes on the CD player. Might even cop off with my wife by the water fountain if I’m lucky.

Undercoverbanana · 08/12/2017 18:04

I'm not going to my work do. It would make my anxiety horrendous.

I've got loads of socials though! Different clubs and groups I belong to. One tomorrow night and 3 next week!!!!

Nikephorus · 08/12/2017 18:09

YANBU. And you can still raise a glass & have a singalong at home - I do. I even have a dance with eldest cat if he makes the mistake of appearing. All that potential embarrassment but no-one to gossip about you the next day. Perfect.

Anniegetyourgun · 08/12/2017 18:10

I'm not going to ours because I CBA TBH. Now if the employer were paying for the meal... actually I probably still wouldn't. Nothing wrong with the team, perfectly nice team (what's left of it - huge turnover of staff, it's that sort of job). I just don't "do" Christmas dos any more. No-one seems to mind.

FutureDays · 08/12/2017 18:11

I'm on maternity leave so not been invited

crazypenguinlady · 08/12/2017 18:11

I'm exactly like You, OP. I love my home comforts and would rather be at home with a glass of wine or hot chocolate, DP and our favourite TV shows. I haven't been on a work do for years.

My friend and I are having Christmas drinks soon though but that's more because we have babies (9 and 6 months) and need to let of some steam

Pancakeflipper · 08/12/2017 18:15

I have to go to the works do but going for the meal and a quick boogie and then making the 2hr journey back home to let the babysitter go home.
I'd rather not go but it's the only evening one I am going to.

Am hosting various events.

And today been invited to a close friend's house for her 'rooters afternoon tea'. She's undergone a few ops for cancer in the last month and regardless of results wants to gather the people 'rooting' for her for cake and a cuppa. I think I am looking forward to that the most of the Christmas events we are doing.

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