To want people to write ds1 full name (not just the shortened version)?

[runnyhabbit]

Some advice needed please. This might seem really petty, but its about ds1 name. He's called Joshua. Me and dh chose it because a:we really love it, and b:because it can be shortened and still sound like a proper name iyswim. But (and I just know this is going to sound petty) we hate it when people just write Josh on cards. I think its so lazy that they can't be bothered to write the "ua" at the end. Granted, when he was born, some people did ask us will he be a Joshua or Josh, and we did say he'll be known as Joshua, and thats what we'll call him, but this being the real world, chances are he'll get called Josh (including us)
Its got to me a bit more since Williams birth (9 days ago), so not sure if I'm being unreasonable. Any advice appreciated.

Dont think that its unreasonble if you told people when he was born that that is what he would be known as,maybe when you sign family cards write Joshuas name in a different colour or capitals just for emphasis.

Why don't you just tell people to their face when they actually say a shortened version, rather than correct their written work? Reminds me a bit of homework - 'Good design of card, interesting use of biro, spelling could do better'.

ooh i get annoyed at this!! I have Jacob, Samuel and Amelia and step kids Joseph, Matthew and Megan, so on christmas cards why do i get

To XX, XX, Jake, Sam, Milly, Joe, Matt and Megs!!

What really makes me cross is when teachers shorten their names - or spell them incorrectly.

LOL mateychops
But me and dh have been guilty of calling him Josh on occassion
But then again, I hate text speak etc, so maybe its me.

i used to be a pedant in this regard - since teenagerdom i can't be bothered.

i too have a jacob and a joseph. and when their friends came knocking and asked for "joe" or "jake" i would say "sorry no-one of that name lives here and close the door on perplexed faces.

If you call him Josh and the people sending the cards know you call him Josh then I think you are being unreasonable.

If you call him Josh and the people sending the cards know you call him Josh then I think you are being unreasonable.

if you actually call them the shortened names on a regular basis i don't see how you can be annoyed. i always write on cards what i actually call the person, not there proper name.

yep- i've done that one custy, also on the phone, winds them up doesn't it!!!

runnyhabbit, do you think that fact that you have only just had a baby might be colouring your view?!

The thing is, I can probably count on one hand the number of times I've called him Josh, and whenever I talk about him (to family, friends etc) I always use Joshua.

VPL - that thought had crossed my mind that and lack of sleep

We get this too - people seem to write DDs whole name, but not DS's. I think as we do call DS by the shortened version a lot its mainly our fault, so we have resolved to use his proper name more and always write is whole name on cards etc. I try to thin if it as a compliment - rellies and far flung friends who don't know him always write his full name, but friends who are close and use his nickname tend to use that on cards etc too, which is fair enough I 'spose.

I get annoyed when people call DS (Benjamin) Ben instead of Benjamin.

Yes, I know that people like to shorten names. Yes I know that may be what he wants to be called at some time. Yes I know there is no way I can stop them. But it still annoyes me .

DS is 3.5 and knows that some people call him Ben, but he prefers Benjamin .

my ds is alexaner we call him ales mil calls him ali [angry}

dd is called felicity we call her fliss however we told everyone that she was to be called by her full name

but mil calls her fliss drives me mad
fil calls both children by full names and always has done.

My DH is a Joshua and MIL still corrects anybody saying Josh to this day. You've got a heck of a cross to bear. Only me and the MIL use his full name really.

I am 8 months pregnant and both my parents and the ILs have already abbreviated our chosen name. Can't stop them, can ignore them.

All my kids have names that can be shortened but we have an interesteing situation with ours.

We have never shortened ds1 name
Ds2 will correct anybody when they shorten his name even his teacher but I call him a short version of his name and he never corrects me
We always shorten dd's name even though we didn't intend to.

All the kids refer to each other with their long name and I do when I am talking about them.

So glad that I'm not alone!

Idris - I usually think like that, but every single card we've had for William, from dh family, has Josh written on it. So it has pee'd me off. Perhaps it really is the hormones

Not quite sure what to do. I'm hoping that we'll be asked what William will be known as, then I can I get in about how I feel about Joshuas name being shortened, without making a huge seperate deal out of it iyswim.

runny - yes you are being unreasonable - you should have picked a single syllable name.

As long as you call him by the name you have choosen, I wouldn't get too upset. Hormones?

You are right when you say "chances are he'll get called Josh " and what if he then turns around and says "I like being called Josh".

As for cards, thats why I write to Bla and family from Me and family. They should think themselves lucky if they get a card at all.

RHD - if you and your dp call her fliss, other people are going to pick up on it. if you call her a shortened name you can't expect other people not to. that's my opinion anyway.

It's because you're not getting enough sleep, IMO.

Write the "ua" on the cards in the same colour pen if it really bugs you though. By the end of doing that, you'll be an excellent forger and able to join forces with a safe-cracker and go for world-domination in the fraud stakes. Or something.

Agree with NA, RHD - if you call her Fliss, other people are bound to.

You're not being unreasonable, especially if you call him Joshua.
We only call DD by a shortened name, and expect this is wat she'll be called at pre-school, but I would always want her full name to be written.

If a shortened version is used, then they'll no doubt write the shortened version, imo.

Rebel1 has a long name which I never shorten, and didn't like anyone shortening it when he was young, but it happens.

Rebel2 had a shortened version picked by us and used from birth, but once he started school, the reception class teacher insisted on using his proper name. Poor child was confused for a bit cos the head teacher used his shortened name, lol.

Rebel3 - well I'm past caring, lol.

My own name is a shortened version, but it's my name as on my birth certificate - everyone assumes it's shortened and call me by the longer name, and if they have to write the shortened version, always spell it wrong.

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