I've picked my BILs new GF in the secret santa. It's his first serious gf. At first I was really pleased about this because she's really nice, we are very similar and share a particular fandom. So I thought, great, there are so many things I can get her!
I asked him about a couple of things - one was tickets to see a show about this fandom that I thought they'd both like as he's taking her to something else related and it's on a similar vein but has a different element. No apparently that's a shit idea, it's rubbish, who would want to go to that (his gf would but because I've suggested it, it's shit)
I suggested a few other things that she might like and everything has been no.
Fine. Try something else. The next was a commemorative silver piece that wasn't expensive but it was really really cool, and only available from one place so small but special to someone in to this particular thing. He didn't know what it was when I asked. I explained. He said no, that's also shit, she'd hate that, wtf use does that have, (it's a practical household item by the way) it's a waste, totally rubbish. I said it's a bit more personal than some generic shower gel set and it would only be part of the present and as she liked xxx thing it might be nice. More disdain from him and I was told that at least a shower gel set would get used (So naive, I never use mine, I donate them to charity) When I say these things were cheap, they'd be even less than 5% of our secret santa budget.
He's been so rude and ungrateful and unwilling to think outside the box and look at imaginative presents as a complement to a bigger more generic thing. At this point I'm just going to get her a shower gel set and when she looks disappointed, say oh - that's what BIL suggested as it's useful. AIBU
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Ungrateful BIL and Secret Santa
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Mymycherrypie · 04/12/2017 22:43
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05/12/2017 00:22
Ignore BIL. My sister told me to get her husband the wrong game last year, luckily he had told my husband what he was after. As long as he hasn't been stealing your excellent ideas it will be fine.
Re the not-so-secret Santa, our families is never a secret either 
. Last year I ended up buying everyone's gift and getting the money back. This year I have been told to assign names and tell everyone what they want 
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