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To get really annoyed with DH for talking over me when I'm on the phone to someone?

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PaxUniversalis · 03/12/2017 16:38

(It's not the first time this has happened.) Today I made a telephone call to a friend who lives overseas. DH was in the same room as me and DH knows my friend. I was talking to my friend about possible holiday destinations for the summer and places to stay.
While I was speaking to her DH started talking over me and saying things like 'tell her to visit town X' or 'they should look for a hotel in the south not in the north', and 'email her a link to town Z '. Every time he said something I couldn't hear what my friend was saying. Also DH sometimes whispers things he thinks I should tell the person I'm talking to, but his whispering then gets so loud that it becomes intrusive. I find this sort of behaviour extremely irritating and rude! DH knows this but he can't stop himself from doing it anyway, even when I start gesturing furiously at him during the conversation. I mean, come on, he's in his late 50s not a teenager ffs.

I know the obvious solution is to make the phone call from a different room to where DH is - and I usually do - only not today (it's cold upstairs). Should have known better.

Anyway I just needed to get this off my chest and I was wondering if anyone else has a partner who does this?

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StrangeLookingParasite · 04/12/2017 17:37

Also used to tap his watch and look meaningful or walk in and out of the room saying 'are you still on that phone.

Legal justification for murder, that. Especially the watch tapping bullshit.
What an arsehole.

KaliforniaDreamz · 05/12/2017 09:30

Pax you sound just like me. I am very laid back and DH quite controlling. With his environment, not with me. But i do have to reign him in sometimes. TBF i think he is starting to recognise it himself....

I have oft been heard souting "YOU DON'T WANT TO DO THAT YOU WANT TO GO DOWN THE M11."

Sweetpea55 · 05/12/2017 09:43

My sister does this to me. When we are talking on the phone she starts having a conversation with her husband. I just, I'll ring you back later and put the receiver down

PaxUniversalis · 05/12/2017 10:26

KaliforniaDreamz - I think it's because DH works in a structured, quite rigid environment. He likes structure, certainty and security. My job is very people oriented and, although I'm organised, experience has taught me that you cannot plan for absolutely everything. I'm a lot more laid back than him. Life is too short to stress about things one cannot do much about. DH needs to loosen up a bit sometimes.

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KaliforniaDreamz · 05/12/2017 11:03

Pax we sound perfect :)

Motoko · 05/12/2017 12:51

My husband does that. My mum rings me twice a week and if he's in the same room, he'll listen to my side of the conversation and make suggestions, or says "Tell your mum xyz" or whatever.
Sometimes I just glare at him, sometimes I tell mum to hang on and say "What?" with an annoyed face, and sometimes I just ignore him.

I've told him it's really annoying, but I don't think he can help himself. I think he's caught it off MIL, as she always talks over people and DH does the same to me at other times.

PaxUniversalis · 05/12/2017 13:23

Motoko - I should have mentioned in my original post that my DH also sometimes talks over the television when we're watching a programme or a film. He will give his own commentary while we're watching. Another infuriating habit!

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