Neighbors baby wakes me up

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Hi, it is early Saturday morning and I am up again because the neighbors baby woke me up again. He is around 1.5 and still wakes up at least two times each night and gets up at 6. We are in terraced house and my bedroom is next to his nursery. He cries for them really loud, more like screams which is followed by them running to him and then some noisy shuffling. In themorning they seem to let him play in his cot for about 30mins and I can hear that, so cant go to back to sleep. He then runs around the bedrooms babling and they are talking loud and it is just very noisy. So my question is what can I do? AIBU to complain to someone? Who?

I was going to suggest what happypoobum said - can you move a large wardrobe full of clothes informs of the party wall to muffle the sounds.

And also get some ear plugs. There are some amazing one available now.

Do your neighbours know you are woken by their child? If you can't move to a different room, maybe they can move the baby. But don't be confrontational about it - it's worse for them, and the child will probably grow out of it eventually.

I’m going to punch the next person that says earplugs

@JonSnowsWife do you think I can log my own 16mo with 101? He gets up in the night still and 7am is a lie in. Surely there's somewhere I can return him to, must be faulty

I've got an 8yo who still doesn't sleep through. Run & save yourself Kaytee, it's too late for me!

@Mummyoflittledragon

I thank god I'm in a detached house so there's no neighbours to grass me in for my child being a child!

My son gets up between 5 and 6 every day (hes 5). We keep him as quiet as possible. But kids make noise. He also has learning difficulties. My neighbours have never commented. We have to put up with her music lessons in the afternoons and her occasional parties at weekends. Shes pregnant so will have baby noise too. The joys of living in a semi detatched house.

Why do PPs thank that the OP should go to the expense of soundproofing her side when the noise is caused by the neighbours? Just interested. If I were to take up tuba I would do so in a room far from party walls and reasonable for me to soundproof as I'm the cause! I made sure DC cots were on far side of rooms and noise kept again far from party walls as possible.

I've tried returning my malfunctioning toddler to the hospital but they said they don't do returns. I'm sure it's a breech of my statutory consumer rights . No one warned me there wasn't a mute button

Note to self: always read the small print

My neighbours kids ( 6 and 4) still wake me up early in the morning at weekends screaming and scraping their toys down the adjoining wall. When they were younger they used to scream at night and scream when they woke up. There's not a lot that can be done really though. We are going to switch bedrooms soon with my daughter who is a heavier sleeper but it a big job and really inconvenient.

Interesting that PPs suggest the OP moves bedrooms. Any possibility your neighbours could move their baby/toddler to another room? At least they are running quickly to soothe the child so are presumably not enjoying the noise either.

I wouldn’t mind the babbling and playing, quite nice to wake up I found when I had a toddler next door to me.

Snooze
Sorry to have to tell you the malfunctioning features change over time. But cannot be fixed or replaced. Just when you think something is fixed, another part loses optimum performance. I’m sure this wasn’t mentioned in the manual.

Are you for real OP?

Is that a wind up or one of those threads set up just to provoke?

I'm assuming you don't have children so haven't been through the baby stage? If you don't, when you do, you may look back on this post and think wtf was I thinking.

Why do PPs thank that the OP should go to the expense of soundproofing her side when the noise is caused by the neighbours?

Because you can only control what you do, not what others do and you can’t stop a toddler crying unless you drug or gag em. Which is frowned upon.

Sure she can ask her neighbours to switch bedrooms but I imagine they will tell her to fuck right off. Nicely of course. As such, if she wishes to resolve the situation the only guaranteed course of action. Is that which she can control.

I’m surprised you’re struggling with the concept. There really isn’t an unreasonable toddler police that she can complain to and no environment health department is going to withhold a complaint like this, kids cry, they wake up it’s not Unreasonable it’s to be expected,

I get that it must be really annoying but I'm just thinking I doubt they appreciate getting woken up either...

Oh come on! It's their child FFS!

Hi all, I think I was just grumpy from not sleeping well, now I see how ridiculous my idea was. And yes, it could be much much worse apart from the baby crying they are nice and quiet people, I could never hear a peep before he was born, so the only thing I guess is hope he sleeps better soon

Moving bedroom would be problematic and they did actually mention ages ago that the box room was temporary nursery. I think they will move him to bigger bedroom at some point. I will try earplugs

You could ask them if they would mind taking him downstairs as soon as he wakes up in the morning. This way at least you could hopefully go back to sleep.
I have 3DC and think it’s really inconsiderate leaving him to play upstairs at 6am.

The night wakings obviously can’t be helped.

If there was a way to get him to sleep more/later TRUST ME I'm p.sure they would do it better start saving for that detached!

You are absolutely not being unreasonable! People need to consider their neighbours when they have children. How thin are the walls, will screaming be heard next door, can a cot be positioned so as screaming will have the least possible impact on others? It's not rocket science to be considerate.

OK, as it's not detached, neighbours have to put up with noise and crap and if they don't like tough? It works both ways. A civilised way to live?

All night I was up again with the now toddler, screaming, more or less inches from my head and the neighbours did nothing, not picking it up, nothing until I lost it, thumped on the wall, told them to shut up and tomorrow they would have music all night.

They screamed something nasty back but then they moved the child back to his room or the other double bedroom, which backs onto no neighbours, just their corridor and I couldn't hear a thing ('till 6am this morning)

Selfish pricks. I am so considerate of them. No more.

OP I still say you are right to be fed up. Just because it's a baby or toddler or child, well why does this trump everything? Why does it trump MY daughters sleep, My sleep? when there IS a solution in my case, but they just won't do it.

Sorry, tired and angry this morning.

Sick of this 'move to a detached house' what crap. Just be considerate.

We live in a terraced house, very near the coast. We have sea views from upstairs but not downstairs. We’ve turned our house on its head, so all living accommodation is upstairs and the bedrooms are downstairs. Only downside was running up and down the stairs with plates of food, so we extended and made a kitchen/diner. It works perfectly for us and we don’t hear our neighbours any more as we are upstairs when they are downstairs and vice-versa. Tons cheaper than moving and highly recommended.