Who is in the right re educating DC? (1st world probs)

[butterflynight]

I have recently inherited a fairly large sum of money & potentially want to put it towards DCs education. However DH & I do not agree on how we should allocate it as it's not enough to pay for both DCs entire education.
DH thinks we should pay for private prep that preps DC for 11+ & then send them to grammar school. He thinks this will be cheaper & that grammar school kids are more appealing when applying for uni/jobs.

DC1 is in an outstanding local primary (reception) & I love it. I think it's a waste to spend the money on prep when we have a fantastic state primary on our doorstep. Plus I wouldn't want to put DC through a grammar school unless they could cope with it & we won't know that for a while yet. I would rather do state primary & then move them to private secondary even though it will cost more & have less cache.

Completely understand this is a 1st world problem & I do not believe private is necessarily better then state. DH went private but I went to catholic schools so it's new to me. Who do you think is BU?

BertrandRussell some secondary schools are better at preparing pupils for university and pushing the more able (and then preparing them for interviews etc for Oxbridge/Medicine). Some will offer better subjects for Russell Group universities (e.g. not allowing a highly academic child to take A Level PE and Photography if that child wants to get into a Russel Group to do Law). Some will push pupils too much and end up with overwrought pupils who may not get into the university they are capable of due to lack of confidence or will leave with ongoing mental health issues.

This is not a difference between state and independent. This is a difference between good and poor schools, or really, the difference between the school which is right for your child or wrong for your child.

I wish I had your problem OP . I would stay put as long as you are happy and show your children the world. I agree with a pp who said that cultural capital goes a long way.