Christmas Gift

[pinyata]

Me and DP have a 6 month DD this is her first Christmas.

BIL and SIL are expecting their first in the new year. DP discussed with BIL what they would like to do re presents and agreed to just buy the kids.

DP has just asked me for Ideas on what to buy expected nephew to which I was a bit the baby is not born yet and I feel like this will take away from next year when it is his actual first Christmas.

So my AIBU that I don’t feel comfortable buying a Christmas present for a nephew who hasn’t been born as of yet and what would you buy?

Ps - am not being miserable or grabby as when it was suggested that we only do kid presents I was still planning on buying BIL and SIL a small gift each (smelliest or smithing similar) to give to them from DD. We have also bought one of the larger needed baby items for when he actually arrives.

I’d just go for a present for them, that they can use for the child when it arrives, like a nappy bin or similar. (Sorry not very good at ideas).
Something practical that will come in handy. Is that what BIL could have meant.

Well babies have been know to arrive at 32 weeks and even earlier so baby could be here. I'm not sure what they are robbing themselves of, they can enjoy this Christmas and then enjoy next Christmas as well. Excitement isn't on ration.

I don't buy for unborn children, a bit too jinxy for me.

enjoy your Christmas OP

How about a lindt chocolate reindeer and write a note to say it's for him but via Mum. Win for SIL then!

pinyata
we knew they were on a budget due to expected baby and asked if they would like to not do presents this year as historically we have bought them and they have bought us.

Was advised they will buy DN and we can buy (unborn) nephew.

Personally, I wouldn't buy for a baby that hadn't been born yet due to tempting fate - and its very grabby, to ask for things for it when not here yet - but, if they insist, buy the baby something for the age they will be next christmas

When I had twins, my single (womanising) male friend turned up with a box set of The Wire and massive box of chocolates. He handed it over saying. 'well you did expect me to go down the kid route did you. And I don't suppose you'll be out much for a while.' I was bemused, but it was a brilliant present. Don't buy an unborn baby a gift, get the parents a box set of one they missed or such like for when the baby is born.

I think you're looking at this the wrong way. They're short of money and want to prepare for their baby. So either buy them a practical gift (baby blanket, 0-3mth size vests / babygros, baby monitor) or something nice for the nursery that's a bit of a luxury they might otherwise not buy (nice picture/wall stickers, set of classic books, a mobile). It will still be for the parents in the sense that they are excited about the baby and looking forward to preparing everything. And it won't take the shine off any toys or baby's first Xmas things you get next time.

I bought my DSIS a 'bump' box when she was expecting (as well as a normal Christmas gift)

Various baby toiletries and small bits and pieces and a necklace as I had decided that bump was a girl - she was happy (and I was right)

How about a "Bumps First Christmas" bauble for their tree? I still have one from when I was pregnant with DS

Gift buying is supposed to be a lovely thing. I hate all this arranging of gifts and who should get what and the comparisons made, this is'nt the true spirit of Christmas.