Christmas Gift

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Me and DP have a 6 month DD this is her first Christmas.

BIL and SIL are expecting their first in the new year. DP discussed with BIL what they would like to do re presents and agreed to just buy the kids.

DP has just asked me for Ideas on what to buy expected nephew to which I was a bit the baby is not born yet and I feel like this will take away from next year when it is his actual first Christmas.

So my AIBU that I don’t feel comfortable buying a Christmas present for a nephew who hasn’t been born as of yet and what would you buy?

Ps - am not being miserable or grabby as when it was suggested that we only do kid presents I was still planning on buying BIL and SIL a small gift each (smelliest or smithing similar) to give to them from DD. We have also bought one of the larger needed baby items for when he actually arrives.

Buy him a lovely baby blanket or other useful baby item, have they got all the equipment they want yet?

Just get a little outfit and a cuddly toy. Job done.

Buy one of those CDs they can play to their unborn child?

What about having a bauble made with a picture lf the babies scan on ?? It's quite a nice little gift and one he can laugh at when he's a teenager !!

I like the idea of a teddy and blanket and haven’t put anything similar in Baby Shower box.

Its tempting fate. I wouldn’t do it.

Buying presents for soon to be born children is by no means an odd thing to do. In fact it is perfectly normal, the done thing.

Of course, from family at a baby shower, but Christmas presents.

Xmas is a red herring.

But they have asked for Christmas presents for an unborn child, so I don't think it is a red herring. For children you usually get a toy, so buying a toy for a child that isn't even here yet for Christmas, is weird,

from family OR at a baby shower

Of course, from family at a baby shower, but Christmas presents

I don't see the difference. Even if you do, it hardly makes one normal while the other is somehow bizarre. It's still a gift, who cares why it is?

As your nephew is still in sil how about getting something for both of them. Like a soft dressing gown for her hospital bag which will also be soft for baby cuddles once he is born.
And make a big fuss about how much you are looking forward to getting him his first proper Christmas present next year.

I have never thought about buying a unborn baby a present, nor have I received one (and my first dc was born two days after Christmas). I don't like baby showers either. But that's all a personal preference. If I told my mum/dp I was buying an unborn baby a Christmas present they'd probably tell me not to be "so bloody stupid". However to prevent arguments I think I would give maybe a teddy? Did you set a budget or anything? Still think it's a bit strange.

What about something baby related that is also a present for the parents to be?
Babysitting IOU, nursing tops (if they are bf) items you know they need for the baby but haven't yet bought
If they are skint they may be struggling to get everything together in time so that could be why they've asked?

I've been 38w at Xmas (with DC2) and will be 36w this year (DC3). I'd find a present for the unborn baby very odd.

You give gifts when baby is here safely?

but not impressive enough to take the shine of anything we get him next year

Erm don't worry. He won't remember anything you get him for about the next 3 years.

I also think it's weird to buy a present for an unborn child, but I also think it's strange to agree to do 'kids' only' presents with a couple who don't have them

I agree.

Ok, I think you may be being a teensy (adorably) little bit PFB about your own DD's first Christmas and so building up the importance of this too much in your head. Just don't buy a 'baby's first Christmas' bauble this year and there won't be much chance of this year's present taking the first Christmas glory!

@WitchesHatRim we knew they were on a budget due to expected baby and asked if they would like to not do presents at all this year. It was BIL that suggested kids only gift

I also think it's weird to buy a present for an unborn child, but I also think it's strange to agree to do 'kids' only' presents with a couple who don't have them

Not OP's fault, it was BIL and SIL who suggested.

I don't get all these baby's first Christmas gifts. As if the baby is even aware.

Well babies come early sometimes so a baby expected in the New Year could easily be here for Christmas so I don't think it is a hanging offense to have a present under the tree.

@Missmollyhadadolly the first Christmas gifts I have bought for my DD are probably more for my benefit. As @MargaretCavendish said am probably being completely a bit PFB lol

Are you worried that this is taking something away from your baby's first Christmas?

Presumably he had a few options only. Say let’s do no presents (then no buying for your lo’s first Xmas which he may have wanted to do), say let’s do as normal (you buy for the two of them, they buy for all three of you thus saving no money) or someone says let’s buy for the children. I can completely see where he was coming from.
All this taking the shine of your gift next year stuff sounds insane, it really does.

Nearly all our family bought something for our baby at xmas when I was 6 mths pregnant. It never occurred to me it would be odd. People buy things for unborn babies all the time

@grannytomine the baby isn’t due until end of Feb so hopefully will not be making an appearance in December,No I don’t think it will take anything off DD my thinking is when I was pregnant last year I couldn’t wait for DD first xmas it’s like they are robbing themselves of the excitement I feel this year when they plan on celebrating as if nephew is already here

@Iggii I think I might be overthinking the whole first Christmas gift idea. I agree on that IABU