Genuinely uncertain here and a bit wrong footed!
I’m a SAHM and to be honest, I’ve struggled with it. I would’ve loved to go back to work but astronomical childcare costs for two DC meant it just wasn’t feasible. As such I’ve been a SAHM for four years.
Recently I’ve been feeling incredibly down about the whole thing. I feel trapped and pretty worthless to be honest, like I’ve lost myself.
My DH is wonderful - kind, considerate and thoughtful, and agrees his salary is ‘our’ money. But even though I know that, it doesn’t always feel like it.
So, on to my AIBU. I rather spur-of-the-moment sent my cv off to a local cafe looking for weekend staff this morning. I just had a call from them basically offering me a Saturday job.
I’m so excited, it’ll be fantastic to do something outside the home, and to feel like I’m contributing to the family finances! (I want to put all my wages aside and treat us to a holiday next year!)
But, I haven’t told my DH any of this. He doesn’t know I was even half-heartedly looking for a job, let alone now been offered one! He’s said before he’s not massively keen on the idea of me working weekends as it’s the only time we all have together as a family. I knew this but realistically, I can’t work any other time as neither DC is in school yet, and I feel like I’m losing my mind.
I’m worried about telling him. Have I been horribly unreasonable?