MIL gifts

[SeamusMacDubh]

AIBU to ask what you are buying your MIL for Christmas?

If you want to add the level of relationship you have with your MIL for context, that's great too

I've asked DH what he wants to get her and he's useless (he suggested we buy her exactly what I bought her last year )

Nothing. Husband is in charge of his family's presents, I do mine.

He may do what he did last year and send the in-laws a hamper from Bettys - that went down very well. They don't really need any more "stuff" but everyone likes cake.

DH will be buying vouchers for a meal somewhere decent.

A personalised Emma Bridgewater mug pint sized in pink hearts with 'This Could Be Gin' in it. Shes awesome

God only knows

She doesn’t drink or smoke.
Eats only very plain food, and only really comfortable if she’s made it.
Sensitive skin- will only use “Simple” toiletries
Clothes are “functional” to her. When trousers go at the knees she patches them.
Comfortably well off, so no point in Kindle Vouchers (she is in a bik group)
Every possible cheesy present involving photos of the dc on mugs/calendar/mouse mat/electronic photoframe has been done to death
No desire to go abroad. She did in 1982, that was enough.
She’s had theatre tickets and English Heritage membership in the past, which she didn’t use.

I used to get my MIL an annual magazine subscription to ones that she read. She loved receiving the mag earlier than it was on sale on the shops and it was a super easy present and one that would actually be useful to her.
My MIL was awesome too.

Dh does it.

Gin, photos, books. She's fab.

Binoculars because she’s going on a bird watching holiday early next year, and a few souvenirs/fun things we got while on holiday earlier this year. (She lives in a different country so haven’t seen her since before the holiday, hence hadn’t given them yet). It’s her birthday on Boxing Day and she’ll be alone unfortunately since we’re expecting a baby on Christmas Day and BIL/SIL can’t get time off work, so we’re getting friends to take over a Christmas/birthday package for her.

Our relationship is average. Not great, but she means well most of the time.

I am getting her afternoon tea in London and an iPad so she can FaceTime.
She's not technically my MIL yet but she is amazing. She is so excited for Christmas the first one she is coming over for, she can't wait to spend it with us.

A cook book from a tv personality she likes- we have a pretty good relationship but they get annoyed when we spend over £15 on them!!!

Cook book and molten brown set. Love her but they are not frivolous so want to get them something of use :)

Cinema vouchers and some nice smellies. Relationship is pretty strained but it is what it is.

DP will get her (and FIL) something he panic buys from M&S on the way to theirs. I do my own family.

His parents aren't big on Xmas presents tho. Anything to unwrap apparently does.

A hot air balloon trip, along with DFIL. We have a lovely relationship, as DH has with my folks. DH and I choose and buy presents together for all family members on both sides.

Salt and pepper pots from a posh brand. She's been having trouble finding ones that work to get satisfaction, it's been a long old saga, so I'm hoping chucking money at the problem will help.

We get on beautifully and I am fully on board with her occasional years-long quests like this and she both appreciate that we paid attention to it and if we've found the winners it's bragging rights for every meal for ever.

She still mentions the wonderful just right size baking thingy my SIL bought her for her birthday everytime its used.

I used to put together a nice hamper with unusual/posh bits you might not normally treat yourself to for her with DP but it was never really appreciated. This year we agreed he will take care of it himself. I will take a hostess gift when we visit on Boxing Day but that's all.

He usually sends a box of posh chocolates for my mother, she's always thrilled because it's always just to her taste and she appreciates the thoughtfulness.

A White Company fragrance set, so she knows specifically that I bought her something on the expensive side.

Oh and we get on very well despite being quite different kinds of people.

Nothing. None of the adults buy for each other on DHs side 'cos there's loads of kids and it gets too expensive.

Possibly a book on art/artists, because that's her thing. (She's not technically MIL as her son and I are amicable co-parents who don't live together, but she's 'family' - and lovely and very generous.)
I used to get her and not-technically-FIL things like biscuits and Prosecco and photos of DS sort of 'between them' but FIL is gone now.)

My SIL and I are going halves in an el-cheapo photo book of our kids and hubbies, without us. Wondering if she will notice.

DH looks after his parents re Christmas presents and I get mine - this year, he and his siblings are all chipping in to send their parents to a concert and night in a posh hotel. Otherwise it would probably be a restaurant voucher - between £50 and £100. My DS (step grandchild to PIL) will be buying them their favourite sweets.

PIL are lovely, however it is the norm in their family not to thank others for gifts. It drives me crazy

This year it will be bottle of champagne. The previous years have been nights away, golf trips etc for pil.

We have a lot on now so saving a lot.

I have a really good relationship with mil.

My MIL is pretty amazing and we have a really good relationship. I brought her an expensive purse and a 'Dear Grandma' memory journal because she loves sketching. I feel like I've done a good job for the first time 😂

Oh and a snowman mug because DP thought she'd like it for her job