To be surprised at my neighbours bitter attitude?

[Donbean]

We were very good friends, in and out of each others houses, kids played lovely.
Then she began to be a bit distant, thought it was depression.
Turns out she was fuming about an extension we have built.
Never said any thing for months, was just off with me, then suddenly came out with it.
I appologised, and kind of kept out of the way of her as she was obviously very emotional about it.
Didnt see her for ages, avoided her, and now its at the point where she totally blanks me and doesnt know if she can ever bring herself to talk to me again!
She has tried to sell up, but her house needed allot soing to it so didnt get offers.
Has done a bit of work and is now putting it back on the market.
I see her in the palyground and she is embarrasingly rude tbh.

I said a cheerful "hi" to her this morning and she just looked in my eyes...then away in a huffy way.

I cant be bothered with it any more...what do you think?

Hope she sells up quickly.

I think it's one of those moments when you say to her

get A Grip.

did you have to get her permission before having the extension built?

no,got planning regs, all that and she never opposed it...

its her problem , not yours

then she's being unreasonable.

feel like telling her to feck off after this morning!

my neighbour hasnt spoken to us for weeks as she didnt like the fact that we replaced our windows and she hasnt. LOL

No great loss though!

No, no, no, don't have a dispute. You want her to sell this house and she needs to tell the buyers what lovely neighbours you are

see! unreasonable freaks every where you go!

No, tinker, i dont want to make a bad situation worse so you are right.

Just makes me fed up thats all.

Did you speak to her before you submitted the plans?

Did you tell her what you were planning? Our neighbours really upset me by chopping down all the trees that separated our gardens (the foot of our gardens). I still feel quite depressed about it, and going in the garden makes me sad. I am nice to them, but I do feel they could have spoken to us first.

I did, told her of our plans, discussed with her and other neighbours.
Neither are happy but neither raised any objections.
We got building regs, didnt need planning permission.

(I do totally understand why they did it btw, they must have had no light at all, but it has wrecked our garden).

We were just such good friends, with loads in common and she was a great laugh.
It amazes me how some one can just turn like that!

It's a difficult one. If neither of them were happy but they also knew they wouldn't be able to oppose it if PP was not needed.

Can I ask what you have done and what the nature of the problem is?

Sorry - an extension. Why does it upset her?

DH built a garage at the bottom of the garden.
She is annoyed about the size of the builing.

"building" meant to say.

Does it block her view/light? Does it overlook her?

You can see it from the back of her house, doesnt take any light nor overlook with windows.

There is no solution to this, she feels the way she feels i understand that, just sad and irritated.

Cover it with climbing plants?