Is this a fair distribution of lie-ins?

[Woolsie]

DP and I have a one year old who wakes up at 6am every morning.

I have three children from a previous marriage aged between 7 and 12. He has a four year old from a previous marriage. They all live with us.

DP works part time and from home. I’m a SAHM.

I get to lie in on weekends until whatever time I like and DP keeps the DC quiet. I’m usually up by 8:30-9 though.

I get up during the week and get all the DC ready and out to school. He gets up at around 7:30-8. He says it’s not really ever a lie in for him as he gets woken up by us all getting ready.

Is this a fair distribution of early mornings?

I’m just pissed off this morning, having been up since 5:30. I got all the children up, fed and ready, put all the rubbish and recycling out and tidied the kitchen while he was pretending to be asleep.

I don't think it is quite fair.

Why not share the weekend 'big lie ins' and he take on a couple of mid week days getting up with the kids?

Not fair, he should get a weekend one as well, poor guy

And do one or two week day morning routine instead I mean

No it's not fair - you are getting the better deal here. Why don't you just have one weekend day each?

Yeah I think that would be fair, one weekend day each and then share the busy mornings

Do you work?

If you do work, I think its still unfair to him.

If you dont work, I think its fucking unfair to him!

So if he works PT and from home what time is he up on the days he working/not working. If he's getting a couple of lie-ins through the week while you're up with the kids then its fair? Personally I'd have him do a few mornings of sorting out the kids and then each of you having a lie in on the weekend

Well if he says he's not really getting a lie in during the week, he might as well get up at 7 and help with the children ( 5 children including 3 at school is a lot!). Then in return he gets one of the weekend lie ins

I missed the fact that DH works part time

I think you should both share during the week & take one weekend day each.

Total envy here, I get two lies in a year, Mother's Day and my birthday
Both of us work in massively draining jobs, mine physically (and mentally!) dh more mentally but he works full time with incredibly long hours and as I'm lucky to do only 3 days I choose to let him sleep in at the weekend.
I think anyone I know with dc, who got a couple of lies in a week would consider themselves lucky!

If neither of you have to be up early for work, share the weekday morning routine and one weekend day low in each

This is why me and my DH don't do lie ins. We just all get up! If you want it fair, one each at the weekend and all up at the same time during the week seems best.

Does he work part time from home or does he work part time outside the home and then also work from home?

Totally irrelevant but how do you manage with 5 kids and only one of you works part time?? The mind boggles for me as a parent to 1 baby and both us parents working full time.

I was wondering that trebus! Whatever your dp does, I need to retrain and get myself a new job!!!

your up with them 5 days a week vs his 2 he only works part time- he should be doing at least one of the school run mornings

You're getting the better deal

Not fair at all. Your DH doesn't ever get an actual lie in.

Why would either of you need a lie in? One of you doesn't work and one does a few hours.

I personally don't think she's got it easy, 5 kids and up at 5.30 5 times a week?! And a SAHM whilst partner works p/t from home?

Let's face it, neither of you are getting a massive lie-in. That's just par for the course, with 5 kids and a 1 year old though.

Neither of you leaves the home to work, so no-one is having to get up, dress smartly/do hair/apply make-up, then do a lengthy commute. You seem to have it easy in that regard.

I'd love to know what your Partner does for work, when he earns enough working Part Time to support 5 kids and a non-working spouse!

He should be getting up during the week to help with the 4 kids (he can’t really be asleep whilst you get the kids ready - he’s obviously keeping out the way!!) then you each get a lie in over the weekend.

Sorry 5 kids x

Wow like another poster said I'd love to know what job he has? Part time, with 5 kids and you're a stay at home mum?? Jeez