New Colleague seems to hate me! Why oh why?

[Rockandrollstar]

Dear MN,
I've name changed!
Posting here for traffic - it's not an AIBU really.....
Started a new job about a month ago.
Lovely team. Everyone very welcoming & all helping me learn the ropes etc...
Just one person (female) seems to have a major issue with me from the start....she never looks me in the eye, never instigates a conversation, whispers with my other colleagues & seems to hate me being there!
She's the opposite with everyone else-so super friendly & lovely.
It's my first new job in about ten years & feels like I'm back at school!
I have tried to be friendly, ask her questions, say thanks for helping me (when she does she seems very passive aggressive!..)
Now what? Finding it hard to be friendly with someone so snippy! I sit opposite her so impossible to ignore her!!!!

There's always one - could be a proper backstory, she could be territorial, who knows - it's her problem, ditch the small talk as others have said - don't invest in her.

Focus on your job & earning the respect of your colleagues who deserve it - go for a coffee with them.

If she's territorial then I bet as soon as another new starter joins you'll be 'bumped' up, she'll start treating you like an old friend whilst making sure new starter is made to feel new....

I got this with a man I worked with. He was lovely to everyone but made my life an utter misery. I usually get on with everyone - in this case he was actively against me to the extent that two other men joined up in a sort of gang with him, to belittle and undermine me at ever opportunity. 😥😥They did such a number on me that I resigned and completely left that field of work...I was so terrified.

I started a new job in a totally different field and my male manager worked very hard to show me not all men were like that. I hope you get it sorted out OP!! It's horrible.

It's like bullying in general. It normally comes from jealousy; that type of behaviour. Sorry you have to deal with this

Ignore the silly cow unless you have to speak

Don't be 'nice', don't ask questions about her weekend and be civil and professional

Who cares - you will get used to it eventuallly but do not give her chances to reject you

How was your day OP?

I'd ask if there was a problem. Not in an aggressive way, but I've called someone out before as I've had the same sort of thing - and after that she completely changed with me.

Well aren't you a lovely bunch!
broom my day was ok thanks....
the snippy colleague was the same as ever.
TBH, the older I get the less I give a shit. There are some lovely people who I really do want to put the energy into getting to know & she ain't one of them!
To the people that suggested I ask her what her problem is, I can't really be bothered....
I am starting to think she may have gone for my job as loads of you suggested because today she made some comment (loudly to someone else) about being able to do my job standing on her head.
Go on then!

You're a threat to her Rock-and-roll star. Rise above if you can. She's to be pitied, must suck to be so insecure.