To be worried about visiting concert halls with the terror threat being so high?

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I have bad anxiety anyway so please don't laugh but the thought of going to one of those places to see a band or a show worries me slightly. Given what has happened previously and the threat level meaning anything could happen anywhere. I know we shouldn't worry but I do. AIBU to just not go to such events? I know I'm being daft but just can't help it.

If you feel that way and it would really worry you to go then you have to think of your own mental wellbeing and not go.

However, the chances of anything happening are low. You're probably taking more risks just crossing the road or driving somewhere. Maybe try to avoid the media coverage because that's just making your anxiety worse.

Have you spoken to a Doctor about managing your anxiety?

Nope yanbu, I feel the same.

I'd love to take the DC to London over the Xmas hols but I just know I won't.

IMO your worry is derived from your anxiety primarily more than it is based on rational evidence so in that sense YABU. The threat level according to MI5 is currently severe, which it has been for a lot of the last few years so there's nothing right now that really warrants an increased level of worry.

All that said, YANBU to consider your own reactions and emotions and to manage your actions accordingly. If you would be beside yourself with anxiety when going to a concert then it's your prerogative not to go. As a PP said though if you're not getting help to manage your anxiety that might be a good idea.

I would be worried to but I would still go, I would be memorizing floor plans so I know exit locations. I would also make sure we found a cafe somewhere we would use as a meeting place if we got split up.

Yanbu. I had to get counselling so I could cope with the dc's going to the west end with school. Managed it but I'm still anxious and check for exits and safe routes out.

YANBU I feel the same. I have felt it for a long time before the terror threat went up. I worry about being trapped in a fire. About some random nutter with a grudge. About the place getting flooded and the water becoming "live" due to an electrical fault. Etc etc. I won't sit in cafe windows or outside in the pavement tables...

I have anxiety too and it's part of it. I actively avoid certain situations and it's a bit shit really but it's the way I am.

YABU.

You need to pull yourself together.

Went to a concert on Friday and absolutely nothing sinister crossed my mind...

No,one is,going to laugh at you for being anxious, and we all worry when we hear about these attacks.

I try not to,let the fears overcome me. I try to sit on aisle ends and take note of exits etc, so I am prepared in case anything happens.

Do you get anxious driving? As I'm sure the probability of having an accident in a car is much higher than getting hurt in a terrorist attack, if that helps to rationalise things? (Or maybe I've just made things worse sorry!)

YABU. It's mo.ore or less safe now than 12 months ago.

And you're more likely to die crossing the road or due to your own diet choices.

YANBU, the world is a scary place right now.

However i don’t think you can live your life in fear. Realistically, despite media reports, the likelihood of an attack is low. Police, security and services are all on alert and have received more training to cope with such situations. Look at Oxford Circus this week, it was a false alarm, but the fact the police were on the scene in mere minutes shows they are prepared for such things.

And this isn’t the first time we have lived through such fear, the IRA were causing similar anxieties a few decades ago and before that in ww2 people didn’t know if they’d make it through the night in case there was an air raid. Fear has always been there. Realistically at any moment, in any location, a lone person could decide to do something violent without warning. I don’t say this to scare you, but we aren’t able to control everything. We need to live our lives, be sensible and be aware, but not put everything on hold - that’s part of how they win.

The world has always been a scary place

Yabu

YABU , the likelihood of getting caught up in something terrorist related is minuscule yet you are allowing it to affect your life.

I’m exactly the same and have to
Force myself to go. DS isn’t going anywhere near London without me

Just as well you don't do my job OP....I work in a massive theatre in London.
Don't put yourself through the anxiety of going to a concert,but bear in mind these atrocities can happen anywhere!

I went to the arena near me for 2 shows this past week, it didn't occur to me to worry beforehand. However, both times you couldn't get near the arena without showing your ticket, then before you could reach the door, there was another ticket check, bag search, body scan and people with big coats had to empty pockets. Rucksacks and bottles weren't allowed. So in that respect, it's never been safer to go, and I think YABU.

I’m off to a concert tomorrow night and hoping friend cancels so I don’t have to go......

Here's a pic from the Manchester arena last month. Security was airport style with pat downs and scanners. It took my breath when I rounded the corner to see the site as I've been to the arena many times, but on the other hand I felt completely safe because of it.

Terrorism wasn't stopping me from attending that gig or any other concert.

When you think about how many shows there are up and down the country every day, the chances of something happening are very small. I don't feel I want terrorists to determine what I can and can't do, so I'd continue to go and to hell with them! It seems there's a risk from people panicking unduly apropos the scenario in Oxford Circus the other day as well, so if it does make you anxious then it may be better not to go - only you can decide.

OP you will get the piss taken out of you on this thread but I think yanbu and I live in London.

Dh works in the City but I've asked him to try to stay clear of Westminster. Having said that I was there earlier this week myself for work and it couldn't be avoided.

If I didn't need to be at what I would consider prime target spots I'd avoid also.

It's a shitting terrible time as at least I got what the IRA were fighting for, ISIS not so much.

I don't know if it will reassure you but venues have put in place additional security measures since the attack in Manchester - small bags only, no rucksacks etc.

Horrible things happen, but this is still a very safe country - that's why these events are so shocking. Its very hard to rationalise risk when it's you or your loved ones, but you have to be phenomenally unlucky to be caught up in an incident. Even though the 'threat level' remains high, the risk to us as individuals is minuscule - much smaller than the risk of getting behind the wheel of a car each day.

Be aware, keep your wits about you by all means, make sure you and your loved ones know what to do in an emergency, but don't let it stop you from doing something or going somewhere you think you will enjoy.

I went to a concert last week and didn’t give it a second thought but my 9yo dd was very concerned about me going and made me promise I would come back and not get hurt . I’m damned if I’m going to stop doing what I want to do though.

I sometimes get nervous but look around me in a shopping centre and see all the staff who work there everyday. On buses and tubes I see people travelling for work, children going to and from school.
I think the answer is to do your normal activities but be vigilant report anything unusual.
Lucky no one was seriously hurt in the big Oxford Circus panic. I wonder how much social media spread the (false) rumour of a shooting.

Do you also get worried about going to other public places? Shopping malls, railway stations, sports arenas, bars and restaurants, etc? If not, then you need to consider why you think concert halls are particularly dangerous.