Whom I have locked up in my attic? I met her abroad ages ago and married her but then she went mad and I had to confine her to the upper floor of my house. A while ago, I had to hire a governess for my DD (of sorts - her mother was a french performer who left her to me when she died) and she and I hit it off. Long story short, I asked the governess to marry me and now my ex-DW is kicking up a fuss. My soon-to-be DW is snooping around and I'm worried that she will find my ex, who is sometimes violent. If we leave the country after we are married, AIBU to not tell her about my ex-DW? Surely what she doesn't know won't hurt her?