DS didn't say his line in school assembley

[Luol81]

Maybe this is silly but am just wondering if I should be upset that my 6 year old DS didn't say his one line at the school assembly this morning. It was only one small line and we had practiced it at home easily. We were not given a script so I didn't know when he would say it exactly, but they were practicing at school last week. Their class teacher was sitting right infront of the stage and I could hear her prompting other children during the show to say their lines so I don't understand why she didn't help him when his turn came? ?? I asked her after the show and she said he might have gotten shy but that it was partly her fault as she got too focused on the other two children next to him who had longer and more lines to say?? I just feel abit upset as he seemed looking forward to his assembley and he thinks he said his line when he clearly didn't?? Sent the video to hubby who was more annoyed then me and wants to complain??

If he thinks he did well then praise him for doing well. Don't make him feel bad, which he will do if he hears his parents arguing about it.

I'd love to know (genuienly, I'm not trying to be smart) what outcome you think a complaint would have? Would you want them to do the assembly again? A formal apology for not prompting him? What would make this better for you?

Surely the fact that he's delighted with himself is all that matters?

Dgd went to a summer performing arts school. When it came to the end performance she clammed up completely!

That made me smile. DS aged about 6 went to something similar, and was determinedly silent during the show despite the organizer's cajoling. The poor woman turned to the audience in the end and said, 'That's the first time he's stopped talking for the whole week...'

What often happens with kids performances is that someone will jump in too early with their line and whole bits of the play /assembly can get missed.

Happened to my own child last year and I was in charge of directing the play. Nothing you can do about it in the moment and as long as he’s not bothered then please don’t complain.

And actually even if he was bothered, there’s nothing to be gained my complaining. It’s no ones fault.

I taught 4 & 5 year old when we did a Christmas assembly.
The morning one went swimmingly.
The afternoon one was a shambles.
The children where hyper and excited for the end of term. They merged lines with each other and they sang crazy loud.
And we told them how both assembly's were great because they all stood up there and took part. And most of all they had FUN.

It is totally ridiculous to complain.
I am sure in your son schooling career there will be real issues.
You will just been seen as the parents who always have an issue if you moan about stupid stuff.
He is 6. He thinks he did great. Which he did because he stood up in front of a large group of people and spoke.
Tell him Well done

I didn’t think parents were allowed to photograph/video anymore?

It’s not the teacher’s fault wtf, if you want to complain to anyone talk to your son?

Supposing it had been your ds who needed a bit of supervision for whatever reason: would you not have wanted the teacher to take her eye off the performing line for a second to give him that?

And oh yes to this!

Dgd went to a summer performing arts school. When it came to the end performance she clammed up completely!

Professional actors freeze. Teachers freeze. I had my peer observation yesterday and completely clammed up: in the report afterwards I was not slated for the clamming but commended for the resilience with which I came back. My dd froze in her drama school audition.

As a parent, it's your job to bring your ds up into a resilient person. If you treat everything that goes even slightly wrong as an opportunity to blame other people, what life skills will that actually be teaching him? How will that help him later in life? You are the one who should be modelling to him how people manage to bob up smiling when things go wrong. It's the best thing you can give him and will get him much farther in life.

......... and there is a thread on MN today asking why teaching isn't an attractive profession anymore.

Answer - people like OP and more so, OP's dh.

for all teachers.